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Emotional Ups And Downs: 7 Tips On What To Do To Manage Them (Guest Post)

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“Knowing how to manage emotional ups and downs is one of the key skills we must work on, regardless of whether we regularly visit the psychologist’s office or not.”

On the other hand, to assume that we can not modulate our emotions is to limit ourselves in an unnecessary way, especially when these tend to change quickly and we become very sensitive to what happens to us.

In this article we will see a series of tips to know what to do in the face of emotional ups and downs, adopt strategies against instability of this type, and adapt ourselves in the best possible way to the environment and to life in general.

What are the emotional ups and downs?

The existence of emotions makes sense, among other things, because they do not arise through our conscious control. Thanks to them, we do not have to go through a long period of reflection to know how to position ourselves before an idea or event; simply, we adopt an attitude automatically, and sometimes in a matter of fractions of a second.

However, in some cases the dynamic nature of the emotions can become emotional ups and downs, which appear when minimal changes make the mood change completely.

This emotional instability cannot only generate discomfort in the person who experiences it first-hand; It can also negatively affect their way of socializing, since it facilitates the appearance of misunderstandings and communication failures. Therefore, it is normal to look for solutions, either by looking for a psychologist (for cases in which the quality of life is worn out) or by changing certain routines from day to day.

How to manage emotional instability

Below we will see several ideas to apply in case you are not attending psychological treatment, although reading them and trying to follow them by oneself can not replace the work of a mental health professional.

1. Look at what situations feed emotional ups and downs

Does this emotional instability appear in any situation, or does it remain linked to a specific context or scope? The answer to this question can give you clues about the extent to which ups and downs are facilitated by elements of your environment.

2. Learn about Bipolar Disorder

As with any type of psychological disorder, Bipolar Disorder can only be diagnosed by mental health professionals through personalized evaluations. However, the simple fact of reading about it can help us understand what happens to us, comparing its symptoms associated with what happens in that case.

Specifically, Bipolar Disorder is characterized by stages of mania, in which the euphoria and extreme optimism and motivation prevail, with another depressive type. These stages are usually long (several days in a row, or weeks), and the symptoms are very extreme and relatively independent of what happens to us.

So, if the emotional ups and downs are not extreme and do not last more than a day, there is no reason to think that this may be the phenomenon that affects us, while in the opposite case it is advisable to attend a psychological evaluation, even if note that it does not have to be Bipolar Disorder. Also, keep in mind that there is a tendency to identify with the symptoms of mental disorders, even though this relationship really does not exist or is exaggerated.

3. Sleep well and eat properly

In many cases, emotional instability is due to frustration fueled by poor physical condition. People who can not afford the energy cost their daily life demands tend to have higher levels of anxiety, which causes them to react in a more extreme way to negative stimuli.

For that reason, to sleep the necessary thing and to take care of the feeding will favor that it does not happen that deficit of energy, which is reflected in the emotional state.

4. Learn to surround yourself with the right people

There are times when emotional ups and downs arise from flawed relational dynamics, perhaps because of conflicts with another person, memories associated with someone and that we would prefer to forget or simply because the predominant attitudes in a group do us no good.

That is why it is important to be clear that if a relationship does not make us feel good, it is totally legitimate to cut it off, even temporarily until we recover.

5. Do not force the appearance of other emotions

If you try to “force yourself” to feel differently, that will only cause you frustration, since it will not work. Instead, it is much more useful to indirectly influence how you feel by exposing yourself to environments that convey the way you want to feel.

Anyway, in the case of emotional highs and lows this can not be the definitive solution either, since it can only be effective when the sudden change has already appeared that you want to avoid that is repeated constantly.

6. Take some time to disconnect

Entering a phase in which the ideas that obsess us and the environments that bombard us with reasons to worry are no longer important, is very positive, since it allows us to recover our strength and take up those daily challenges with renewed energy.
In order to be, change places, so that your physical environment does not remind you of what makes you experience stress.

7. Go to the psychologist

If you can not adequately manage emotional instability, do not blame yourself; The field of emotions works through processes that do not depend on our voluntary control, and we can only influence it indirectly, modifying our way of relating to the context. In the latter, psychological therapy works very well.

So, it is important to look for a psychologist or team of psychologists and let yourself be advised and helped. Working from the consultation sessions and through the routines indicated by the professional we will be doing what is necessary to improve significantly in a matter of weeks.

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How To Ease Your Travel Anxiety

As an international student, travelling has become a part of my life and as much as I actually do love travelling my anxiety does tend to mess with me sometimes. However, over the last few months I have learnt a few things that help ease my anxiety before and during my travels. I really hope it helps you guys too because travelling should be a good experience not an anxiety ridden one.

  1. Be prepared in advance– I usually try to finish all of my packing at least one day in advance so on the actual day I’m travelling I know I’m done with everything and I can relax. This gives you a chance to kind of relax your brain because once it’s all anxious it’s hard to calm it back down. I just have to go through everything and make sure I’m not forgetting anything and I’m done!
  2. Lots of chamomile tea- studies have shown that drinking chamomile tea helps calm you down and reduces stress levels so if you’re packed in advance you have a few minutes to sit down and have a nice cup of chamomile tea to really calm you down. You can also take some along with you or buy them at the nearest coffee shop to help keep you calm during your journey  Chamomile tea doesn’t help everyone but it has helped me so give it a try and see if it works for you!
  3. Meditation and yoga- like I said before if you’re packed in advance you have more time to do relaxing things and it really helps to do some yoga and breathing exercises. There are a lot of special yoga positions and meditations that are specifically for relieving anxiety and stress and I wasn’t a huge believer in either but they really do wonders for you especially if you do them long term! You can also do the breathing exercises while travelling to help you stay calm in anxiety inducing situations.
  4. Your carryon is important– This is crucial to your travel. In my experience what you carry with you on the plane/bus/train is very important to how your journey will go. Firstly, make sure to double check that you have your passport and any other documents you may need during your journey. Secondly, make sure you have a book or headphones or something to distract you in case you do end up getting really anxious or having a panic attack. I also make sure to carry food and drinks with me because I tend to get more anxious when I’m hungry or dehydrated and you can do this too.
  5. Don’t forget to breathe– at the end of the day you have to remind yourself that it’s just travelling and it’s really no big deal. Most of the time when anxiety takes over it’s hard to think rationally but you need to train your mind and make sure it doesn’t control you with irrational thoughts. Keep thinking calming things and just try to relax and enjoy the moment!

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Our Mental Illnesses Are NOT Your Cute Personality Quirks…

This. People need to understand this!

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Seriously people. The next time that I hear”Oh I must tidy up, I’m so OCD today” or “Oh she’s up one minute and down the next – she’s so bipolar!” I am going to stuff my walking stick right up that person’s asshole and turn them into a fucking lollipop. I swear I am.

Listen up people. Suffering from mental illness is no triviality and neither is it a fucking joke. I have struggles with several mental health issues, OCD and bipolar being two of them, so it really does set my teeth on edge when I hear someone coming out with an off the cuff, totally fucking moronic comment like that.

When we said we wanted mental health disorders to be spoken about more, we didn’t mean for you to appropriate them into your everyday conversations.

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Top 5 Movies That Deal With Dementia (Guest Post)

Movies that deal with real suffering of ordinary individuals are usually those that stick in our minds for years to come. Many older actors who have portrayed people affected by Alzheimer’s and dementia have gone on to win Academy Awards or nominations, and will forever be remembered in the history of cinema. The following is a list of some of the best films on memory loss and how it affects everyone involved.

5.   The Savages (2007)

Starring Laura Linney and Philip Seymour Hoffman, The Savages is a touching story about two siblings who reunite for the sake of their father who’s suffering from dementia. This tragic comedy yielded some wonderful performances and nominations, including Laura Linney’s Oscar nomination for Best Actress, and Philip Seymour Hoffman’s Golden Globe nomination for Best Actor in a Motion Picture (Musical or Comedy). Tamara Jenkins was also nominated for an Academy Award for Best Original Screenplay.

  1. Aurora Borealis (2006)

An indie movie released without much anticipation, Aurora Borealis is a story about a grandfather, (Donald Sutherland), who suffers from dementia and needs more care than his wife (Louise Fletcher) can provide. They hire a home health aide (Juliette Lewis) to assist, and enlist the help of their grandson (Joshua Jackson) to provide proper care to Sutherland’s character who believes he can see the Northern Lights through his window. Although Aurora Borealis has never received much praise from critics or moviegoers, it is one of those films where Donald Sutherland steals the show for the millionth time.

  1. Age Old Friends (1989)

John Cooper, played by Hume Cronyn, wonderfully portrays an elderly man who chooses to live in a retirement home to preserve his independence and not be a burden on his daughter, played by his real-life daughter, Tandy Cronyn. He becomes friends with Michael (Vincent Gardenia), who is diagnosed with dementia, and is faced with a tough decision when his daughter wants him to come live with her. Should he leave a rigid retirement home and go live with his daughter or should he stay to help out a friend in need?

  1. Iris: A Memoir of Iris Murdoch (2001)

Iris: A Memoir of Iris Murdoch is based on a book by John Bayley and a true story of English author Iris Murdoch’s battle with Alzheimer’s disease. This film will forever be remembered by its outstanding cast and its breath-taking performances. Jim Broadbent, who plays Bayley in his later years, won an Academy Award and a Golden Globe for Best Supporting Actor. Judi Dench and Kate Winslet both landed Academy Award and Golden Globe nominations for their portrayals of Murdoch in her older and younger years.

  1. The Notebook (2004)

The Notebook is certainly the most famous of all the movies on this list, and for a good reason. Based on Nicholas Sparks’ bestselling novel of the same title, The Notebook might not have received as much praise from the critics as it did from the audiences around the world, but it will forever be adored as one of the most romantic movies of its generation that break down both young and senior dating and everlasting love that knows no boundaries. Featuring Gena Rowlands and James Garner, The Notebook tells a story of a loving elderly husband of Allie who is trying to rekindle her memories destroyed by Alzheimer’s disease. Ryan Gosling and Rachel McAdams play the couple when they were younger and their chemistry is out of this world.

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An Open Letter To My Anxiety

Before I start this I just have to say that I was inspired to write this by swiftiewithfragilex who is an amazing blogger as well as an incredible Youtuber. She has not only given me lots of inspiration but has become a great friend too. I would highly recommend anyone reading this to take the “Open Letter Challenge.”

Dear Anxiety,

I guess I’ve always been a little paranoid and I’ve always had the tendency to overthink everything and I can’t say that your appearance in my life is completely unexpected. I don’t know why I’m like this- maybe it’s the way I was raised or maybe I’m just genetically predispositioned to be an anxious person. Honestly, it could easily be either.

You joined me soon after your co-worker depression decided to leave. All my life I’ve felt as if I need to be cautious, as though I should always expect impending doom and once you joined me it only got worse. I stopped being myself. I felt as if my life, my mind, my personality was slowly deteriorating and I could do nothing to stop it.

The light headedness, the nausea, the headaches, the random panic and the social phobia were beginning to pull me under. With depression it felt like I was at the bottom of an ocean with a rock tied to my foot but with anxiety it was more like someone just threw me into the water and no matter how hard I tried to swim, to get back up I just kept going further and further down. I was drowning in my own panic and paranoia. I felt permanently exhausted both physically and psychologically as though I had no strength left. It takes more strength than most people realise to be panicked and uncomfortable all the time.

But the truth is that I have learnt to live with anxiety. I have learnt to live with the irrational thoughts, the feeling of fear and impending doom, the occasional lightheadedness and panic attacks, the cold sweats and nausea.

The only thing I have left to say is that I thought anxiety would ruin my life but it only made me stronger, braver, more determined to do as I choose without constantly worrying what the aftermath would be. As long as it keeps pushing me up I’m going to keep swimming upwards trying to break free. It no longer controls me, I control it.

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If you or anyone you know is suffering from anxiety or any mental disorder please seek help . It is important that you make sure your mental health doesn’t bring you down and there are lots of people out there that offer help. Mental illness often also effects those around us and a lot of times couples counselling can help your significant other understand what you are going through better.

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Tips On How To Deal With Anxiety

I usually have lots of anxiety about things most people tend to not even think about. Recently my anxiety had gotten worse but I have been trying to fight it. I know anxiety is one of the most common disorders in the world and I wanted to share some of the things that help me feel less anxious all the time and help me ignore the symptoms.

Stop overthinking it– sometimes distracting yourself can really help ignore your symptoms. The thing with anxiety is that it is always with you all the time and sometimes doing something calming like reading or listening to music can really help.

Exercise– exercising releases endorphins which make you feel better and feeling good removes the anxiety because two opposite emotions cannot coexist. Exercising can also really help give you time to think about situations more calmly and realistically.

Write/Talk about it– writing about things I am anxious about is for me the most helpful out of all of these. It just feels so good to vent and just be open about what’s bothering you. If you don’t particularly love writing you can always talk about it to someone you trust or to someone online.

Make a plan– if there’s a certain situation that’s making you overly anxious plan it out. Think about the worst possible outcomes and then try to think about what you could do to better the situation and think about how realistic those outcomes are. Sometimes we overthink things to the point where our thoughts aren’t even rational anymore. Plan everything so you have no reason to be anxious anymore.

Just live with it– sometimes you need to just ignore the anxiety and stop letting it control your life. I know it is easier said than done but for me one when I’m anxious I get lightheaded and it makes me really uncomfortable but I’ve learnt to just live with it and not pay too much attention to it.

Stop trying to please others– one thing that most anxious people have in common is that they are perfectionists and people pleasers. Something I’ve learnt though is that there are people who will never be pleased no matter how hard you try and sometimes giving up isn’t a bad idea. Instead of trying to be perfect and pleasing others you need to put yourself first. Being perfect is not possible and sometimes things don’t go as planned but that’s okay because you did your best and that’s all that matters.

Seek help– in the end if nothing seems to be working you should seek professional help because it can very difficult to live with anxiety. There are drugs you can take and people you can speak to and this can really be helpful. There is nothing to be ashamed of for seeking professional help because it doesn’t make you weaker than everyone else, it makes you stronger because you know your weakness and you’re ready to fight it. There are lots of therapists out there wanting to help and if you can’t for any reason talk to a therapist in person there are lots of online psychiatrists willing to help that could really help you change your life for the better.

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Tips On How To Deal With Depression

I have dealt with depression for quite a few years. Actually I have had symptoms of depression since I was 11/12. It was really hard at first especially because I didn’t know what was happening- I was just always sad or angry and I really didn’t get much support at the time from my family who I believe just thought I was going through a phase at the time. The worst part of depression for me is that it never really goes away, it’s always there at the back of my mind waiting for the slightest sign of weakness. I still have days when I just feel horrible and feel like life isn’t worth it anymore but I always try to think of all the positive things in my life. If your depression is effecting your day-to-day life in a way that you can’t deal with on your own please seek help immediately. Often your depression can also effect the relationships with the people you love and couples counselling is a great way to get your relationship back on track. Anyway, here are a few things I found very helpful when battling with depression:

Exercise- I know when you’re depressed even just getting out of bed is difficult but exercise really does help and once you start exercising you’ll start feeling a lot healthier and positive, you just need to find the strength to start. I would encourage that you get a trainer or start some kind of exercising routine everyday even if it’s just jogging for a while every day. Believe me it will start to be really fun soon.

Eat healthy- sometimes the types of foods you eat can affect your mood. Eating healthy can really help with depression and make you feel better about your body too. It can increase your self-esteem and really make you feel more positive.

Self-help- if you feel like therapy or drugs aren’t exactly helping you to cope with your depression reading books or sites on self-help can be really helpful. I found this particularly helpful because everyone has different symptoms/types of depression and sometimes reading can help you find the perfect way to deal with it because everyone is different and different things help different people. Online sites can be helpful too because you can read other people’s experiences with depression or write about your own experience. I have found that many people online are very positive and ready to help.

Love- sometimes thinking about things you love can really be fun and can get your mind off more negative things. You can make a list of all the things you are grateful for and put them in a jar so you can pull out one of them every time you feel down. You can also choose to stick the list above your bed so you see them every day. You can always also find people you love and tell them you love them (it’s fun to see their reaction).

Smile- smiling helps make you feel better because it removes chemicals in your brain that make you happy. Try smiling at people, even if you don’t know them that well and just try to pretend to be happy for a while and you’ll soon realize that you stopped pretending and are actually starting to feel happy.

Get a pet- studies have shown that playing with animals can make you happier so if you can maybe try getting a cute little pet (or a creepy one if you’re into those kinds of pets) to hold and cuddle when you feel sad. Plus taking care of them can get your mind off your depression.

Help someone- helping someone can be really rewarding. As humans we have the need to please others and in doing so you please yourself. Maybe you can help out at a homeless shelter by cooking or serving the homeless. If you like animals maybe you can volunteer at the animal shelter. If those don’t sound right maybe you can volunteer at school to tutor other students or help out with events. It may sound kind of boring or lame at first but it can get really fun and you may end up making some new friends. You could always try to join a club too so you can meet some new people to interact with.

Talk- everyone has a story a story to tell and talking to others can really help with depression. Not only do you realize that everyone has problems you also get to see things from other people’s perspective which can really be helpful sometimes. I’m sure your friends would love to talk to you about how you’re feeling and if not you can always join a support group or talk to someone online. Just talking about how you feel can actually be a lot more helpful sometimes than solving you dilemma.

Change you’re thought patterns- I’m not saying that depression is a habit but sometimes thinking negatively or being pessimistic can become a habit. To change this you can try to consciously make an effort to be more positive about things. Soon thinking positively will become a habit and you will realize you’re becoming a more positive person in general.

Be creative- sometimes having a creative output can be really helpful. For example, I started writing my blog because it gave me a way to write about my thoughts and generally things I’m interested in. Writing is a great way to express yourself. So is art, making music, cooking and more. Find something you enjoy doing and do it when you’re feeling kind of down.

Seek help- if nothing seems to be working maybe you need professional help. There is nothing wrong with that and there is nothing to be ashamed of either. Sometimes you need some professional help to sort out some things and it may be incredibly helpful. And remember you will probably not have to see a therapist for the rest of your life and even if you have to there is nothing wrong with that. If you’re not sure how to sign up for therapy or how to find someone who can help you can always check out BetterHelp which will help you find the perfect therapist for you as an individual- someone you can comfortably work with to achieve a better you! 

I hope these helped! They’re not exactly proven or even professional or anything, they are just things I myself have done and still do when I have bouts of depression and I personally find them very helpful so I thought I should share them. I really hope this helps someone!

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Myths About Mental Health Disorders

I haven’t written much to do with psychology lately and since this week is Mental Health Week I decided to write about some myths about mental disorders that are unfortunately often believed by those who don’t understand them.

Myth: People with mental health disorders are just weak

Fact: Having a mental disorder doesn’t make you weaker than other people and it definitely doesn’t mean there is something wrong with your personality. Many factors can affect your mental health like biological factors such as genes and hormone levels, life experiences and family history of mental illnesses can also be affecting factors.

Myth: People with mental health disorders are just pretending/being dramatic

Fact: Many people believe that people who have mental disorders are just being dramatic or looking for attention but this is definitely not true. People who suffer from mental disorders tend to react to situations differently than other people, for example people with depression may tend to react more negatively or not react at all unlike the average person. That does not mean they are doing it for attention, they are doing it because of other reasons including that sometimes their hormone levels are different than the average person and this can cause their reactions to be different.

Myth: Children can’t have mental health problems

Fact: Children can also have mental health problems and sometimes even very young children show signs of this. Half of all mental health disorders show signs before the age of 14 and three quarters show signs before the age of 21. Sometimes parents or even people in general don’t realize this and the signs go unnoticed which is very unfortunate because if diagnosed early the child can get help before the mental health disorder starts interfering with other developmental needs.

Myth: People with mental health disorders are dangerous

Fact: If the disorder is diagnosed and is treated or being treated most people with these disorders are not likely to be more dangerous than anyone else. People with mental illnesses are not violent and in fact people with severe mental illnesses are over 10 times more likely to be the victim of a violent crime.

Myth: Therapy is a waste of time

Fact: Many people assume that therapy is useless and a total waste of time – why would anyone pay someone to listen to a bunch of petty problems? Why don’t they just take a pill instead? Different types of treatments help different types of people If you can’t find a therapist your comfortable with in your area you can always check online on BetterHelp which will help you find a therapist for your particular needs. It actually mainly depends on what the individual finds most effective. Many times prescribed medicine is combined with therapy to make it more effective. You must also remember that pills only take away the symptoms they don’t deal with the problem itself. Many people often find therapy very helpful.

Myth: Mental health disorders aren’t real illnesses

Fact: Just because you can’t always see the symptoms in X-rays or blood tests it doesn’t mean that mental health disorders aren’t real. They are just as real as any physical illness and just like physical illnesses it is just as important to seek help because they can start negatively effecting your everyday life. Mental illnesses are nothing to be ashamed of and it is truly sad how people often don’t take them as seriously.

“No one would ever say that someone with a broken arm or leg is less than a whole person, but people say that or imply that all the time about people with mental illnesses.”

Some mental health disorders can be very serious but that doesn’t mean you can’t beat them. To anyone suffering from a mental illness, just remember you are stronger than your disorder and you can fight it. Mental disorders do not define who you are as a person and there is nothing to be ashamed of if you need to seek help. There are so many different types of therapies out there and you can try out as many as you like until you find something that works for you. Making sure that you are mentally and physically at your best should be your priority and you should definitely feel free to seek medical help if need be.

“True strength is smiling when you want to cry, laughing to hid the pain and going on no matter what”

“Mental illness is not contagious, you can’t catch it by being kind”

“Just because you can’t see it, doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist”

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Living With Depression

Many people don’t understand what depression feels like and think that people who are depressed are just being sad and pessimistic and they should just try to brighten up. What people don’t realize is that depression isn’t a choice, it’s a disease. It’s sad how psychological illnesses are not taken as seriously as physical ones. Most of the time people just think that people with psychological diseases are just “weak minded” and they should just get over it. No we are not selfish, self-centered or attention seekers. Depression is real and it effects almost 350 million people worldwide.

Being depressed is like trying to swim but having a rock tied to your foot the whole time dragging you down. No matter what you do that cloud just doesn’t lift and it’s sad but after a while you stop trying to fight it and start giving in. It starts small like one day you just wake up a little sadder than usual, then soon you stop going out as much as you used to, you don’t laugh or talk as much anymore either and after a while it takes way too much strength to even get out of bed.

The one thing I’ve noticed about having depression is you really figure out who in your life genuinely cares about you and who doesn’t. Another thing I’ve noticed is that people soon give up on you which honestly just makes it worse because the people you expect to help you and to understand just end up telling you that you’re just being lazy. Sometimes it may actually seem like we’re being lazy or we don’t want to help out but what people don’t understand is that it takes so much strength to even get up that it feels like it’s impossible for us to do anything other than just sleep or sit around. Sometimes it feels like we’re being unfair and that we don’t care about hurting others but we do care- in fact we care too much. Every little comment you make that you may not have even said to hurt us does hurt us. Those little comments about our hair or our clothes will forever be engraved in our minds. We are very sensitive and sometimes you need to keep your opinion to yourself because we have a really hard time accepting ourselves as it is and sometimes you just make it worse.

Depression is a very dark road and the worst part is it never really goes away. It’s always there just around the corner waiting for some sign of weakness so that it can attack again. This can sometimes make people think you’re moody but it’s not true. Sometimes you just want to be alone and sometimes you want to be surrounded by people but we don’t act this way to annoy others because believe me it’s just as annoying to us as it is to you. Sometimes we need to be alone because we can’t take the pressure of socializing or even just having a conversation with someone. Sometimes we need to figure our own thoughts out before we can deal with talking to other people.

I know that people probably tell you all the time that things aren’t as bad as they seem but sometimes they are. So I’m not going to end this by telling you to try to brighten up or change. I will however tell you that there is always help out there for you if you think you need it. There are also lots of people out there who have been through what you have and they’ve survived. There is nothing wrong with you- you aren’t a freak, you aren’t weird and you’re definitely not weak. You are a strong, unique and powerful individual who is going to get through this because things are going to get better and you deserve to be happy. Nothing is ever worth ruining your happiness for and once you learn to love yourself and your life things will look brighter. Whether you’re just currently going through a difficult phase or whether you have clinical depression you just need to remember that you come first- don’t try to please everyone around you, just focus on yourself. Maybe you need a few days off but that’s okay- take a break and relax. Things will get better.

“Maybe you have to know darkness before you can appreciate the light” –Madeline L’Engle

Also please remember that there are always people out there that are trained to help those suffering from mental disorders! If you’re not sure who to talk to or what therapists there are in your area you can always check for therapists near you on BetterHelp!

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