Overcoming Fear One Gear At A Time (Guest Post)

I was huffing and puffing on the stair master at the local gym when I got the call. I had been looking for a new vehicle. I needed something cheap and reliable. Good luck finding something like that right? But my prayers were answered. My next door neighbor called me and said another neighbor was selling his 1999 Mazda B2500 green truck. It had like 17,000 miles on it. WHAT!

I got off the stair master as we spoke. I was excited and scared all at once. Why? Because I didn’t know how to drive a stick shift. The green truck was a stick. GRIEF! The price was too much for me to pass up: $1,500. You can’t beat that. So I said “YES.” A had no idea what I was getting myself into.

A few days later I had the title and the truck was sitting outside of my house. I didn’t drive it there, my neighbor did. I think the truck sat there for a few days. I didn’t know how to drive it. I had some decisions I needed to make. For some reason, I had always been afraid to drive a stick shift. I never had any bad experiences previously. Growing up, we never owned a stick. From where did these fears arise? To this day I still don’t know. But I learned somehow someway I would need to overcome them. There was no way I was going to let that truck simply sit out there. Besides, we needed another vehicle. So, I needed help. I asked one of my colleagues at the time if he would help learn how to drive it. He said he would.

When the time came for me to begin learning how to drive the truck, I had so many fears.

  1. Would I stall quite a bit?
  2. What about stalling in a big intersection?
  3. What if I had to stop on a hilly street? Would I roll back not knowing what to do?
  4. Would people laugh at my driving skills (or lack of skills)?
  5. Would I hurt myself or someone else in this truck?

Some people say, “Don’t worry about your fears because most of them won’t happen.” WRONG. All of them came true except for #5. WHEW! Yep, that’s right. Most of my fears became a reality. We began my truck training in a high school parking lot. It was brutal. My friend got a big kick out of me jerking back and forth. His wife had a few laughs as well after I had to drop him off and try to back out of their driveway.

The first month was pretty scary for me and maybe for other drivers as well. But then something amazing happened. I began to get comfortable. I began to get a little more confident. The fear was slowly going into the background. It was still there, but just not as strong. At times it would creep back up in certain situations. I had to work with it and control it. As I drove the truck more I wondered why I had so many fears. Why did I refuse to even consider getting a stick shift? Why had I limited myself so much? HHHMMMM. Indeed, it is a great mystery.

Fast forward a few months after I got the truck. It’s fall and I’m headed to Mexico to learn Spanish. That was another great fear of mine that I decided to try and conquer. I went in the green truck. It was going to be about a 12-hour drive. Would the truck get there in one piece? Would I get stranded? More FEAR. But this time none of my fears were realized. I certainly did panic when I saw the battery level gauge say low. I had the battery checked while on the road and it was fine. That gauge stayed in the same place for the entire time I owned the truck. I made it to Mexico (Presidio Texas to be exact which is three miles from the border). I had been studying hard trying to learn Spanish. I was scheduled to preach a sermon there in Spanish. More FEAR.

I studied and practiced and studied and practiced for a few months. On a Sunday I was given a chance to preach two lessons in Spanish. Needless to say, it was BRUTAL. But the brethren were really kind. When my time there was over, I got back on the road. Less FEAR on the way home. I had a lot more confidence. The truck survived and so did I. Looking back in 2016, I had no idea I would have a green truck and preach two sermons in Spanish. I’m glad I did.

I have learned some things from the Green Truck that I would like to share with you. Maybe they will help you. If they do great. Please let me know.

I learned a lot about overcoming fear one gear at a time. I have broken this experience into seven different thoughts. At the conclusion of this, you may want to get a sheet of paper and write out the fears you have. Identify what step or gear you may be at this moment.

  1. OWN IT.I literally owned the green truck. It was mine. There was no escaping it. I couldn’t return it. This is something we must do when it comes to the things we fear. We need to face them head-on. Own the fear. If you’re afraid of public speaking, own it and sign up for a public speaking class like Toastmasters.
  2. START IT.  I had to take those initial steps with the truck. That meant that I had to open the driver’s door, sit down, and start that bad boy up. That was a big deal with the fear I had. But I embraced it and you will have to do the same with whatever the fear you may have. Take the first step so you can begin to conquer the fear.
  3. GEAR 1:  This was where I had a lot of stress, pressure, and fear. I had to somehow have the right touch with the pedals so I could get things going. This is where I stumbled probably the most. There was a lot of hesitation on my part. There was a lot of doubt. What if I didn’t get it right? Most of the time I didn’t get it right. I stalled. Others saw my failure. But it was another necessary step. Whatever it is that may be holding you back, gear 1 will probably be the most challenging. But you will not get to any other gears without this one. Maybe you can skip this part of the process, but long term it will not be good. You will be frustrated as you seek to do and conquer new challenges. You will want to quit. But you can’t. Here’s why.
  4. GEAR 2: It took me a while to get to this gear but when I did I began to feel much better. I started to really move and get some momentum. When you get to this gear (in your public speaking, starting a company, writing a book, etc.) it will be a great feeling. And it will continue to get better.
  5. GEAR 3: I was so excited when I punched it into third gear. I was the big dog on the road. Okay, okay, that sounds a little cheesy, but I don’t care. It was a big accomplishment for me. It will be a big accomplishment for you as well. If your fear is something like public speaking and you decide to sign up to Toastmasters, then sign up for that first talk, write the talk, and then get up to present, rest assured you will feel great. Now you will have to keep going. That’s what I did.
  6. GEAR 4-5: Now I was in beast mode. There was nothing that was going to stop me. I could now drive on the highway and keep up with everyone else. I was on the freeway to SUCCESS. As you overcome your fears one gear at a time you will eventually hit the freeway of SUCCESS. Maybe it’s public speaking or preparing for 1/2 marathon. You will eventually reach a point where everything feels smooth sailing. Most of the time it will be. Until it’s NOT. You see, the green truck taught me something.
  7. YOU WILL HAVE TO GO BACK TO GEAR 1:  I couldn’t always stay in gear 4 or 5. Eventually, there was going to be a stoplight, a stop sign, or some slow driver in front of me. Now I had to go back to gear 3, 2, and then 1. And then I had to start all over again. NOOOOOO! LOL. YEP. That’s right. The green truck constantly humbled me. I had to keep proving myself. And so will you. It’s good to be able to give a public presentation. But can you do it again and again? I know you can. But it will require you beginning again and again. It will require you confronting any fear that may still remain. In life, we will have to continue to conquer and show up. We will constantly go from Gear 1 to Gear 5 and back and forth. That’s good. It will keep us humble. It will force us to stay hungry.

I’m so glad I bought the green truck. It was a great blessing. Who knew one could learn so much from a truck. I’ve learned a lot. What fears are holding you back? What fears are really not your own, but someone else’s? Let them go and begin to SOAR.

Let’s GO.

I CAN DO and SO CAN YOU.

Let me know of your great success.

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Blogger Love | Why Your Posts Aren’t Getting Engagement & How to Boost Engagement

These are great tips and thank you so much for the mention!

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As a blogger, there is nothing more disappointing than pouring your heart and soul into a blog post that performs poorly in terms of engagement. Not only can this be a frustrating experience, but it has the potential to dishearten or dissuade you from blogging in the future. As we all know, failure is a liar that tells us to doubt ourselves and our abilities, when in reality most blogging “failure” is (1) arbitrary and (2) not content related. If you’re frustrated with your low blog post engagement, please keep reading.

Five Reasons Why Your Posts Aren’t Engaging

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So I decided to sit down and actually figure out what I wanted to do with this blog. What I envisioned sharing and what I personally found interesting. Since doing that I came up with a few ideas to help find that next idea I could write about.

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How To Find Time To Blog

Super helpful!

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So we all know how hard it is to blog with a full time job or with college or school. There’s homework, there’s overtime and sometimes you just want to snuggle up in bed with a good book or to watch Netflix after a long hard day. It can be hard to find the time to blog and we stress about the very thing we used to enjoy. So without further ado, here are my top tips on how to stay on top of your blog and enjoy it at the same time.

Making Time

It’s easier said than done but when you get home from work/college/school make some time for your blog. Make a plan, have some dinner, watch one, yes I said one, episode of your favourite show and then decide to blog for an hour or so before you do something else. Learn to reward yourself after…

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If you are trying to reach more readers, chances are you’re already familiar with search engine optimization (SEO) and building a presence on different social media networks.

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Six Ways To Stay Creative When You Blog

These are such awesome tips!

Douglas W. T. Smith

On my last post, How To Push Through Writer’s Block, I discussed different ways writers can push through the daunting blinking cursor or blank page.

I have been blogging for two years and through that time I have kept a list on my desk on how to stay creative when blogging.

We all come to that moment when we get stuck in our writing. Blog writing can be rewarding but there are times when writer’s block will stop us dead in our tracks.

Here are the six ways on my desk to remain creative when blogging:

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It is easy to not reach your blogs full potential due to minor mistakes. A lot of bloggers especially when starting out tend to make these small but detrimental mistakes. Here are some of the mistakes and how you can take your blog to the next level by avoiding them.

Too many tags- Tags are a great way to get traffic to your blog but when you use too many tags on your post WordPress automatically assumes you’re a spammer and takes your post off the discover/reader section. This can decrease your traffic and consequently the amount of likes/follows you get.

Solution- To avoid this make sure to use a maximum of ten tags per post. If you feel that those are really not enough change your settings to make the maximum tags per post higher.

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Not engaging with others- WordPress is very much a two way street. You cannot expect people to consistently support your blog if you’re not supporting theirs. If you don’t leave likes/comments/shares on other peoples blog they are not going to leave them on yours.

Solution- To solve this problem try to be as active as possible- I know it can be time consuming but check out who regularly leaves likes/comments on your blog and try to repay the favor when you get the time.

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Being disorganized- It is very easy to get disorganized especially when you start blogging because you’re not sure how to categorize everything yet and may not even know what your niche when writing on this blog will be. Unfortunately, this can cause a decrease in traffic and follows.

Solution- To be more organized use categories and make sure they are displayed on the sidebar so that your readers can check out similar posts on the topics they are interested in. Also try not to have too many categories because that will just make it more confusing- stick to the main ones.

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Not responding to comments- Even though responding to all the comments you get can be time consuming it is always a good idea to respond to your readers because it keeps them engaged with your blog. If you constantly ignore their comments they will most likely stop commenting and eventually stop viewing your posts altogether.

Solution- To avoid this make sure to respond to comments and if you’re busy you don’t need to respond to every comment instantly- schedule a few minutes every day to respond to comments.

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Posting irregularly- This in my opinion is one of the main reasons that a lot of people lose traffic/followers. I myself stopped posting regularly for a few months and saw a dramatic decrease in traffic. Most people want to follow a blog that is more regular and posts on similar times because then they know when to check for new posts. If you’re posting randomly your followers may miss your new posts simply because they didn’t know you posted anything.

Solution- To post more regularly try to keep a schedule of when you have the highest views on your blog and post during these peek times. I know that a lot of times life gets in the way and it is difficult to post regularly- if this is the case try scheduling your posts or writing them in advance so all you have to do is press publish.

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Share And Promote Your Blog Here!!

Just wanted to remind everyone that I have this page where you can share and promote your blog as well as check out awesome blogs that people have already shared!

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I don’t usually post on Thursdays but I just had to today because I recently just reached 1000 followers and I am really so thankful for each and every one of them. All of you have incredible blogs and I thought that it would be an awesome way to celebrate if everyone shared a link to their blog and a little excerpt of what their blog is about. This way we can all communicate with each other, promote your own blog and you may find blogs you really like too!

Please reblog this to get more people involved and start a chain reaction!

Again thank you to all my followers for your continuous support!

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I was so excited to realize that I had recently reached 6000 WordPress followers which meant I had gained a little over 1000 followers in 2 months. This is the most followers I have gained in two months and I thought I would share some ways in which you can get more followers on your blog too- if you’re interested in gaining followers- if not don’t worry there are lots more posts on this blog with different topics you can check out. Hope these tips help!

Be very active– Blogging is a two way street. You can not expect people to like, follow or share you’re posts if you never do the same. I mean you don’t have to like every post every follower of yours puts out but at least make an effort to reply to comments and read and like some of the posts on your reader from the blogs you follow.

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Be genuine– Your followers will be able to tell if you’re genuinely interested in something or are faking it for views and they will always enjoy the posts you are genuine in much more. Try to be genuine and write about things you are truly passionate about.

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Edit well– Grammar mistakes and typos are a normal part of writing and it happens to everyone but when your posts have multiple grammar mistakes and a lot of typos it gets hard for the reader to read and breaks your flow. It also makes your blog look less professional and people are less likely to follow it. To get more followers try to take some time to edit your posts so that the reader gets the best experience possible and is way more likely to follow.

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Use the right tags– Don’t overdo it with the tags but don’t stop using tags completely either. I would say about 5-10 is the right amount of tags to get more traffic to your blog which means more followers. Another thing is don’t lie in your tags- like for example don’t tag it ‘food’ if the post has nothing to do with food. It’s very annoying when people do that and it only makes people dislike you for lying.

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Be organised– In my opinion, this is probably the most important one. Try to be organised and punctual with your posting. If you post randomly whenever you feel like you won’t get the optimum views and follows plus your followers will be confused and won’t know when to check your blog for new posts. After posting more regularly on a daily basis I have seen a huge difference in both my followers and views.

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