Overcoming Fear One Gear At A Time (Guest Post)

I was huffing and puffing on the stair master at the local gym when I got the call. I had been looking for a new vehicle. I needed something cheap and reliable. Good luck finding something like that right? But my prayers were answered. My next door neighbor called me and said another neighbor was selling his 1999 Mazda B2500 green truck. It had like 17,000 miles on it. WHAT!

I got off the stair master as we spoke. I was excited and scared all at once. Why? Because I didn’t know how to drive a stick shift. The green truck was a stick. GRIEF! The price was too much for me to pass up: $1,500. You can’t beat that. So I said “YES.” A had no idea what I was getting myself into.

A few days later I had the title and the truck was sitting outside of my house. I didn’t drive it there, my neighbor did. I think the truck sat there for a few days. I didn’t know how to drive it. I had some decisions I needed to make. For some reason, I had always been afraid to drive a stick shift. I never had any bad experiences previously. Growing up, we never owned a stick. From where did these fears arise? To this day I still don’t know. But I learned somehow someway I would need to overcome them. There was no way I was going to let that truck simply sit out there. Besides, we needed another vehicle. So, I needed help. I asked one of my colleagues at the time if he would help learn how to drive it. He said he would.

When the time came for me to begin learning how to drive the truck, I had so many fears.

  1. Would I stall quite a bit?
  2. What about stalling in a big intersection?
  3. What if I had to stop on a hilly street? Would I roll back not knowing what to do?
  4. Would people laugh at my driving skills (or lack of skills)?
  5. Would I hurt myself or someone else in this truck?

Some people say, “Don’t worry about your fears because most of them won’t happen.” WRONG. All of them came true except for #5. WHEW! Yep, that’s right. Most of my fears became a reality. We began my truck training in a high school parking lot. It was brutal. My friend got a big kick out of me jerking back and forth. His wife had a few laughs as well after I had to drop him off and try to back out of their driveway.

The first month was pretty scary for me and maybe for other drivers as well. But then something amazing happened. I began to get comfortable. I began to get a little more confident. The fear was slowly going into the background. It was still there, but just not as strong. At times it would creep back up in certain situations. I had to work with it and control it. As I drove the truck more I wondered why I had so many fears. Why did I refuse to even consider getting a stick shift? Why had I limited myself so much? HHHMMMM. Indeed, it is a great mystery.

Fast forward a few months after I got the truck. It’s fall and I’m headed to Mexico to learn Spanish. That was another great fear of mine that I decided to try and conquer. I went in the green truck. It was going to be about a 12-hour drive. Would the truck get there in one piece? Would I get stranded? More FEAR. But this time none of my fears were realized. I certainly did panic when I saw the battery level gauge say low. I had the battery checked while on the road and it was fine. That gauge stayed in the same place for the entire time I owned the truck. I made it to Mexico (Presidio Texas to be exact which is three miles from the border). I had been studying hard trying to learn Spanish. I was scheduled to preach a sermon there in Spanish. More FEAR.

I studied and practiced and studied and practiced for a few months. On a Sunday I was given a chance to preach two lessons in Spanish. Needless to say, it was BRUTAL. But the brethren were really kind. When my time there was over, I got back on the road. Less FEAR on the way home. I had a lot more confidence. The truck survived and so did I. Looking back in 2016, I had no idea I would have a green truck and preach two sermons in Spanish. I’m glad I did.

I have learned some things from the Green Truck that I would like to share with you. Maybe they will help you. If they do great. Please let me know.

I learned a lot about overcoming fear one gear at a time. I have broken this experience into seven different thoughts. At the conclusion of this, you may want to get a sheet of paper and write out the fears you have. Identify what step or gear you may be at this moment.

  1. OWN IT.I literally owned the green truck. It was mine. There was no escaping it. I couldn’t return it. This is something we must do when it comes to the things we fear. We need to face them head-on. Own the fear. If you’re afraid of public speaking, own it and sign up for a public speaking class like Toastmasters.
  2. START IT.  I had to take those initial steps with the truck. That meant that I had to open the driver’s door, sit down, and start that bad boy up. That was a big deal with the fear I had. But I embraced it and you will have to do the same with whatever the fear you may have. Take the first step so you can begin to conquer the fear.
  3. GEAR 1:  This was where I had a lot of stress, pressure, and fear. I had to somehow have the right touch with the pedals so I could get things going. This is where I stumbled probably the most. There was a lot of hesitation on my part. There was a lot of doubt. What if I didn’t get it right? Most of the time I didn’t get it right. I stalled. Others saw my failure. But it was another necessary step. Whatever it is that may be holding you back, gear 1 will probably be the most challenging. But you will not get to any other gears without this one. Maybe you can skip this part of the process, but long term it will not be good. You will be frustrated as you seek to do and conquer new challenges. You will want to quit. But you can’t. Here’s why.
  4. GEAR 2: It took me a while to get to this gear but when I did I began to feel much better. I started to really move and get some momentum. When you get to this gear (in your public speaking, starting a company, writing a book, etc.) it will be a great feeling. And it will continue to get better.
  5. GEAR 3: I was so excited when I punched it into third gear. I was the big dog on the road. Okay, okay, that sounds a little cheesy, but I don’t care. It was a big accomplishment for me. It will be a big accomplishment for you as well. If your fear is something like public speaking and you decide to sign up to Toastmasters, then sign up for that first talk, write the talk, and then get up to present, rest assured you will feel great. Now you will have to keep going. That’s what I did.
  6. GEAR 4-5: Now I was in beast mode. There was nothing that was going to stop me. I could now drive on the highway and keep up with everyone else. I was on the freeway to SUCCESS. As you overcome your fears one gear at a time you will eventually hit the freeway of SUCCESS. Maybe it’s public speaking or preparing for 1/2 marathon. You will eventually reach a point where everything feels smooth sailing. Most of the time it will be. Until it’s NOT. You see, the green truck taught me something.
  7. YOU WILL HAVE TO GO BACK TO GEAR 1:  I couldn’t always stay in gear 4 or 5. Eventually, there was going to be a stoplight, a stop sign, or some slow driver in front of me. Now I had to go back to gear 3, 2, and then 1. And then I had to start all over again. NOOOOOO! LOL. YEP. That’s right. The green truck constantly humbled me. I had to keep proving myself. And so will you. It’s good to be able to give a public presentation. But can you do it again and again? I know you can. But it will require you beginning again and again. It will require you confronting any fear that may still remain. In life, we will have to continue to conquer and show up. We will constantly go from Gear 1 to Gear 5 and back and forth. That’s good. It will keep us humble. It will force us to stay hungry.

I’m so glad I bought the green truck. It was a great blessing. Who knew one could learn so much from a truck. I’ve learned a lot. What fears are holding you back? What fears are really not your own, but someone else’s? Let them go and begin to SOAR.

Let’s GO.

I CAN DO and SO CAN YOU.

Let me know of your great success.

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Do You Know Your Why? (Guest Post)

When I ask this question to those people around me, they reply with either “What is it?” or “You mean my hobbies?”

It is hard to see one who knows exactly what he wants to do with his life and devotes all of his energy to it. You can ask your surroundings to see if one can come up with a solid answer.

The Why is not a small hobby or something too conceptual that one can’t reach. It is simply your trueself, your purpose of existence that powers you and drives you to achieve your utmost satisfaction.

And apparently, your Why is very important. It brings passion to your work, gratitude to your daily activities and clarity to your life. It helps you stay focused. And it is a miracle.

An example of my friend’s is: “I want to be so rich that I will use money as a mean to help others.” No jokes. It is seriously his Why.

Or your Why can be as simple as: “To reach a peaceful mind and never feel negative again.”

But many of us are struggling to find the Why, in the course of not even knowing they are finding it. Have you ever asked yourself the question: “What do I want the most in my life?” or “Which career path should I choose for the rest of my life?” And then not long after, you forget that “big” question to dive into your normal day-to-day activities.

You may see it’s hard to answer that question, because you either do not know the answer, or do not want to draw a big picture that seems to be unachievable, or you do want to find it but are clueless of how to.

If you are keen on finding your Why but don’t know how to, then read on, you may be interested in my method:

GETTING STARTED: HOW TO KNOW YOUR WHY THE UNBOUND WAY

Here is the recipe for you to cook your Why:

Ingredient #1: Find something new to do (or to think). Make a list of them.

Why it must be new? The answer is this simple: Old ways don’t open new doors!

If you do the same chores, repeat the same hobbies, think and talk the same way, you will never know your potential.

And “the potential” is in your future. It is not the current you. The current you is old.

We all want to develop ourselves. No?

You do not know how well you can do something new without putting it into action.

Ingredient #2: Don’t make it too difficult. Start small.

Not every one of us can do extraordinary things, but every big thing starts with small steps.

Plus, small things are easy to start, especially with those who love their comfort zone, who are introverted and who procrastinate.

Ingredient #3: Do it with persistence.

I have published an ebook for this method, named “100 new little things – A method for knowing your Why”.

Why is it 100? Of course, when you have the list of your new little things, it can be 50, 80, or 500. Just do not make it 3 or 5.

The crucial idea here is that we will have to do it in a row. Make it a regular series. Because our new things are small, we have to continue to make it happen and thrive for the unordinary.

Why is this method the right way to give a try?

It is proven that Doing new things can help you in many ways to improve yourself:

  • It is a trait of successful people
  • It helps you Overcoming your fear
  • It leads you to Learning new skills
  • It helps Improving your career path
  • It shows you the treasures of life
  • It is a method to find your freedom
  • It leads to big changes
  • It improves your creativity

I hope this helps, and if you want to have more guidance on how to know your own Why, your true self, kindly visit my website:

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All About Cham Dance: A Ritual Dance By Tibetan Monks In Ladakh (Guest Post)

Bored with usual work and daily routine??? Feeling to snap out and see the some nature’s beauty??? Yes, of course everyone deserves a get-a-way. A cool, pleasant, scenic place would be a best fit. You got it right!!! I am setting the mood to introduce you to the wonderful and holistic trip of the Leh-Ladakh Tour. The Leh-Ladakh Road Trip is famous for bikers and road travelers.

The Leh-Ladakh trip by means of road is best if the tour is through the Manali to Leh highway. This highway remains open for only five months in a year but has the amazing sightseeing places all through the way. Apart from sight-seeing, the main and the best tourist attraction of Leh and Ladakh is the dance form called ‘Cham’. This Cham dance is associated with the Tibetan Buddhism.

Legend behind Cham

The word ‘Cham’ literally means ‘dance’ in Tibetan local language. As told by the people of Leh-Ladakh region, Cham is a very vibrant and colourful dance. The history of this dance dates back to 8 th Century and is known to be started by Guru Padmasambhava. The then King of Tibet, Trishong Detsen requested Guru Padmasambhava to help him get rid of the evil spirits which were not allowing the construction of the Samye Monastery (currently located in Tibet). As per the legend, the evil spirits used to destroy the construction in the night which was done that morning. To address this situation, Guru Padmasambhava then drew lines on the ground that invoke tantric powers and danced using tantric mudras (hand gestures) to please gods. This ritual was successful in driving away the demons.

Places to witness Cham

Though Cham, has taken its origin in the Tibetan region, it traveled through the borders of Bhutan to enter India. This dance is a prominent tradition in the Tibetan Buddhist monasteries. All the Buddhist monasteries following the Tibetan culture perform this dance. The North- Eastern States of India like Himachal Pradesh, Sikkim, Jammu & Kashmir and West Bengal are the regions which are the house for these lovely monasteries. But to be more specific, the belt of Manali to Leh-Ladakh has some of the most famous ones like the Hemis Monastery, Thiksey Monastery, Diskit Monastery, Alchi Monastery, Lamayuru Monastery, Spituk Monastery, Matho Monastery etc.

All of these Buddhist monasteries wide spread over this Leh-Ladakh Road trip route are the some of the Indian centers for this traditional dance of Cham. This dance is performed only by the Buddhist monks who are called as lamas, during festivals of these monasteries. The calendar of each monastery is different which differ dates of their annual festivities. Mostly these take place between the months of January to August, thus standing out to be the best tourist attractions in this region.

Attractions of Cham

The main attraction of Cham is the beautiful and vibrant coloured masks which the lamas wear during the performances. Amidst the music produced by the long horns, drums and cymbals, Cham is performed by the initiated lamas to depict the stories of saints and gods fighting over the evil. The Cham performers usual carry elaborated costumes and masks made up of clay and cloth pieces. The dried masks are then paints with multitude of colours portraying various emotions and expressions like anger, fear, happiness, evil, ego etc. These masks are also at times coated with metals for certain characters.

The Cham dance masks are usually three or four times bigger in size than a normal human head. With the sharp edges and other structures there is quite a possibility to have bruises for the lamas wearing them. To avoid this, the lamas drape their forehead and neck with cotton pads of layers of cloth.

Besides masks, the lamas also wear robes which are bright coloured. They also wear ornaments for showing few characters in the dance. These robes and aprons are generally made of silk and have different patterns on them. When the dancers perform to the tranquilizing music these robes flying in the air or make an umbrella effect around their waists giving a very real feel of the depiction.

All the dance costume is wore over the usual dress of the monks. The normal costume consists of the mask with long broad sleeved gowns with short triangulated capes known as tippet. The mantle is generally decorated differently for different characters. The colour of the dress is also significant as it imports some iconography.

Significance of Cham

Cham, being an art of cleansing the evil spirits, slowing paved its way into the Indian Himalayan region monasteries mostly is the Leh-Ladakh region. The dance is only reserved to the lamas and is not documented due to its tantric powers. It is passed from one generation monks to the next generation monks only. It initially it was performed only in the hidden parts of the monasteries but as of today it’s can also be viewed by the large number of tourists.

There are different forms of Cham which are performed during different occasions all around the year. As spoken earlier, the Cham that narrates the win of good over evil is a highlight to the Tibetan New year celebrations. Many of the Cham forms feature exorcism of evil spirits. A very common scene of these exorcist narratives of Cham is the capture of evil spirits of human effigy made of dough, wax, yak butter or paper.

The dancers who dress up as various deities, demons, heroes and animals act and dance as though they have been possessed by the souls of the characters. This Tibetan traditional dance is considered to be a form of meditation by the monks. As layman for the dance form and gestures, the people also consider this dance as blessings from the gods to protect them and wipe out the evil influences.

Preparations for Cham

The dancer lamas – who perform this dance, have to meditate lasting from few days to weeks before the performance to invoke the protective deities within themselves. On the day of performances, the lamas feel the deities within and perform reciting sacred chants and gestures. These chants and gestures are from the tantric Buddhist studies which attract and capture the evil from the world.

For the lamas, this dance is a way of abolishing the evil from the world. This is a way of saving the word from the evil influences. This form of dance shows the path of liberation to the monks. We can witness this if we can make our way into the monasteries and stay with the monks.

Cham in Leh-Ladakh Festivals

The ritual of Cham, is a very common aspect of all the monasteries in the Leh-Ladakh road trip regions. In Ladkh, Cham is performed during the various celebrations Tshechu (the new year), Guru Padmasambhava’s birth anniversary etc.

Hemis Festival

Hemis festival, which commemorates Guru Padmasambhava’s birth anniversary is celebrated in the annually in the Hemis Monastery, in Ladakh. This is the most joyous occasion and is lighten up with the performance of Cham Dance or locally called as the Mask dance. This is a two day festivity which is a very promising event which attracts viewers from all over the glode.

Location

Hemis Monastery is located 45 km from Leh and is tucked on the western banks of river Indus. The only way to get there is by car or a by a bike from Leh. This is one of those monasteries in Leh-Ladakh region which offers stay inside the monastery.

Cham at Hemis

The Hemis festival takes place for a whole two days generally in the month of July. This is the most happening festival of the whole Ladakh area. This brightens up the place in preparations for the festival, it’s just not the locals who are involved in this festival but also thousands of people around the globe come to witness this festival and the fascinating fiesta the Cham dance.

The two day itinerary of festival is described below

Day 1:

On the day one, Ladakh starts the dazzling festival with some rituals performed by the head priest of the monastery. This can be witnessed from the courtyard of Hemis monastery. They bring out a huge idol of Guru Padmasambhava into the courtyard and adorn it with decorations. This is ritual is followed by the Ladakh’s most pulsating dance performance of ‘Cham’. The performers first seek the blessings of the head of the monastery and then gather around the flagpole at the center of the courtyard to perform. This continues till the dusk.

Day 2:

Ladakh remains as energetic as it is all through the first day of the celebration. The Cham performance again commences with a small opening ritual. The melodious music which has the cymbals and drums along with human voices bring in mystic vibes. The dance starts with a slow tempo and gains momentum gradually.

During the course, people destroy the clay sculptures of demons which were discussed earlier. Finally the black hat dancers smash the sculptures and throw the broken pieces in four different directions showing the end of negativity.

Other festivals with Cham Dance

Apart from Hemis monastery, there are many more monasteries which perform the Cham dance in the Leh-Ladakh region. You can be a part of Cham Dance in Lamayuru Monastery. This is situated in the Srinagar-Leh highway which is 15kms from Fotu la. The Yuru Kabgya festival of this monastery is dedicated to Yama, the God of Death and Guru Padmasambhava, who is considered the second Buddha. This festival takes place in months of June and July which has the extravagant Cham dance performed by the lamas.

The Phyang Monastery located in Ladakh, 15 km away from Leh is another prominent place for the Cham dance. The Cham plays an important part of the Phyang Tsedup Festival, dedicated to Jigten Gombo, the founder of Dringumpa Monastic Dynasty. This festival is celebrated between the end of July and August months.

Spituk Gustor festival and Stok Guru Tsechu Festival of the Spituk Monastery in Leh are home for a magnum experience of Cham. The Spituk Gustor festival celebrated in the month of January is for the world peace and well-being while the Stok Guru Tsechu Festival celebrated in February is for removing the evil spirits by receiving the spirits of deities.

The Thiksey Monastery located 19 kms from Leh in Ladakh also stages Cham as a part of the Thiksey Gustor Festival. ‘Gustor’ means ‘sacrifice’ and is celebrated during the month of November.

Matho Monastery or Matho Gonpa located 26kms from Leh in Ladakh hosts the Matho Nagrang Festival in the month of February. This is the only one belonging to the Sakya School of Tibetan Buddhism. The Matho Nagrang Festival is two day festival which is popular for two oracles, one being the lamas spending one full month of meditation before the festival in preparation for Cham and the second being the predictions made by them about future happenings.

Ladakh Festival is also a famous stage for the Cham dance. This is celebrated every year in Leh and its villages. It takes place in the Polo ground of Leh which has many events like archery, polo and other cultural events from the villages.. Among them the most significant is the one when Cham dance is performed. This is celebrated mostly during September before the tourist season closes.

Conclusion

The Leh-Ladakh Road trip is a life time experience and should be a part of everyone’s bucket-list. Now with this interesting Cham dance information, the Ladakh tour should be considered as the top most priority in the list. Keep in mind to clash your trip with one of these lovely festivals which will make your tour loaded with memories. But just you keep you informed never forget your full photographic equipment as it is worth capturing every moment of these extravagant moments of the Leh-Ladakh Road Trip or the Cham dance experiences.

Why waiting, book your tickets right away to tick off the Leh-Ladakh road trip off your bucket-list.

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Six Word Story (Guest Post)

How the hell would I know?

This guest post is super special because it was contributed by my dad!

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Lemons (Guest Post)

When life throws you lemons, you make lemonades or lemon ginger juice or tart it up or make lemon curds…
There are so many ways to make the most out of life
Be it following through on a goal, a conviction, an ambition, or navigating life’s unexpected curved balls
There is no single perfect way to figure life out
Heck, nobody has it figured out!
Understand that our circumstances shape up and make us – and although those circumstances may be undesirable, they inevitably make us stronger
We can’t control what happens to us – what we can control is how we tackle/handle it
so here is me to you, encouraging you and cheering you on!
You can do it!
Whatever you’ve set your mind to, GO FOR IT
You are, indeed, the miracle you need
You are the superstar of your own fortune
Show up & COME READY TO PLAY BALL!
…Your time starts, (looks at the watch for a few seconds), right about now
You are not nearly your thoughts, as you are your actions
so Mates, get cranking and get working.
Life is only as good as you make it
Ex all the pity parties and woe-is-me conclusions and get off your back!
Shake yourself off the dirt
Deduce and dissect the situations
Understand potential solution paths
Figure out the most optimal way
And Forge ahead!
If you’re chasing a goal
Stay on course
Enjoy the process
Feel the rigor
Keep your eye on the ball
Stay SHARPLY FOCUSED
…cut out ALL DISTRACTIONS or Side-tractions
Identify what matters most to you & why
Figure out how success looks to you
and squarely chase after it like a CHAMP
Keep pushing & Keep working & Keep Praying
One day –  YOU will be that water, that pierced through the rock 🙂
…as was said, pain is weakness leaving the body
They never said it will be easy
They only promised it will be worth it
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Life (Guest Post)

The body can’t remain unseen what it saw

The body can’t go unfeeling what it felt

There’s no undo button

You can’t forget

But you can forgive

Move on

Live your life

Healthy

And happy

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Validation And Your Highway To BROKE (Guest Post)

Biggest boy on the planet! Waddup!??
You’re here, You’re there!
You’re everywhere turning up: popping bottles, lighting it up at every other club on the streak every gaddam WEEK bruv! You know, as a bad guy!
We see you; We sit at the table you paid fo’ & sip on the champagne you bought while at it but you know we ain’t paying a dime – we hail thee, thats sufficient right? That’s all you ever wanted anyway! Validation.
So yea, you’ve now been validated. Foot the bill, bruva. Yea, that’s what the big boys do, right ? They fool around
On Friday nights though, you forget rent is due on Monday 🏾‍♀
Pepper them gang! Your aim is to emphasize that the world is REALLY a global village ON YOUR DIME.
Show us pepper! From Thailand to Cayman Islands to Zanzibar, then give us Paris! You know, give us Bora Bora! We ain’t even hating.
First class flights – because you know, you have to stay miserably relevant.
We got it.
If you don’t post it, it never happened. DUUUHHHHH! If you fly economy, you’re disrespecting your father’s fatherssss. (I mean, I know right!?).
We gon live vicariously through you, BALLER! Right? Get that personal loan buddy! Yesssss! Use it to pay for your throttling ambitions ! How else we gon hear it though!??? Yep! I feel you!
Thoughtfully, you know – your credit cards can pay for the logistics in between, ex your 5k first class tickets. PURFFEKKTTT
LIVE. IT. UP!!!
I mean that girl you’re finna holla at gotta see that you gat it boo! She gotta know that you can “handle” her with your liability-self. OKKURRRR
She has to think highly of your you!! Come On!
Now that all is said and done, You’re now married to this chick who validated you AND y’all are DOWN AND OUT hommie !
75 THOUSAND US DOLLARS in credit card debt! And you think it’s the works of your enemies, you know, them haters – who’ve always been jealous of you hehehehehehehehe
Dude, 75k!!! How did you get there mehn?!!! HOWWWWWWW????
Spending and living life on your own terms is not the problem. WORK HARD, PLAY HARDER!!
If you’re living on >50% of your paycheck after taxes, YOU ARE ONE STEP ABOVE POVERTY LEVEL.
Shape up.
Fix your life.
You Need To Live A Little, I get it – but before then, DOUBLE YOUR HUSTLE!!!
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5 Quotes For Introverts (Guest Post)

“The more powerful and original a mind, the more it will incline towards the religion of solitude.” –
Aldous Huxley

“Don’t try to be what you’re not. If you’re nervous, be nervous. If you’re shy, be shy. It’s cute.” –
Adriana Lima

“Silence is only frightening to people who are compulsively verbalizing.” – William S. Burroughs

“Just because you don’t say much doesn’t mean people don’t notice you. It’s actually the quiet ones
who often draw the most attention. There’s this constant whirlwind of motion and sound all around,
and then there’s the quiet one, the eye of the storm.” – Amy Efaw

“Lighthouses don’t go running all over an island looking for boats to save; they just stand there
shining.” – Anne Lamott

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Love In Love In Love – This Love (Guest Post)

I was sent on a mission to earth to find out someone or something that would complete me. I wandered everywhere, following every ray of hope, every soul that I believed would quench my thirst, give me the answer. Everyday was the same until I met you. I never thought you could be possible, it was like a fairy tale. I expected you to have been swayed and blown away by the wind, but you stood there, intact, solid, searching and exploring my deep soul through your hypnotizing eyes. Today is the day I think I’ve succeed. I’ve found you (or is it that you’ve found me?)
 
I know you’re a military officer and that you’re leaving the state tomorrow for your posting is in the eastern borders of US. I know that I won’t be able to see you for a long time (or maybe never). Before you leave, I want you to know some things that I always had in the back of my head which I couldn’t take the courage to tell you. I’m so proud of you, so proud.
 
If I turn back time, will the memories get erased too? I know I’m saying things that I can’t even do. So silly in love.
 
I’m just saying this out of guilt, for making things hard for you, for making you live in tears. So egotistical in love.
 
But for me, I can’t live outside you. For me, the only times that were colored by you are passing by, fading away, submerged by the domination of fearful consequences. So distressed in love.

I guess love is like that, no matter what you say, it doesn’t feel like it’s filling up. Even if I think it’s just my greed, these feelings won’t go away easily. So gluttonous in love.
 
If I go back, will I be able to endure all those hard times? When I see you, my lips tremble. When I see your eyes, my heart keeps fluttering. When you look at me and smile, it feels like time will stop. You’re my destiny, I want to protect you until the end of the world. You came to me like a dream and shook up my heart. I love you, are you listening? So absorbed in love.
 
I know not how you will be in the next 24 hours. I know not every second if I can call myself married or widowed. But I’ll always wish you the best, a hundred times a day. Even if everything changes, this fact that you are my everything, will be left unchanged, unaltered. Even if we can’t see our future, I will always believe in you and wait for you. So sincere in love.
 
I hope you know that until the end of the world, till your last breath, I’ll be your light, your support, your pain. My tears confess everything. So profound in love.
 
The only reason I’m alive is because of this love.
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How To Travel When You Suffer From Social Anxiety (Guest Post)

Objective: Travelling with Social Anxiety

You scroll down your Instagram feed and watch people travelling to every corner of the world. Looking anxiously at your screen you might think “Damn If it wasn’t for my anxiety, I’d travel all the time”.

Well, today is your lucky day. I will tell you how to travel the world from the comfort of your social anxiety.

Should I travel alone?

Short Answer, yes. Long Answer depends on the situation. There are certain places that travelling alone might not work. These would be places that are crowded such as Cancun Mexico, London UK, Las Vegas USA.

In these places you might feel like you stand out like a sore thumb. Because they’re centered around public events like: concerts, sports stadiums, nightclub raves. Which most people that have social anxiety would not be too fond about anyways.

Many people with social anxiety tend to realize that travelling alone is the best way to travel. What does this mean? It means that when they’re in large groups, they tend to get overloaded.

What if I don’t want to go alone?

More people? No problem, this is the safest way to go travelling. A major bonus to go with a few people means that you don’t need to do most of the talking.

Some people feel social in spurts, but always do not feel like talking. Travelling with outgoing friends, works well for when you just want to go along for the ride.

The best strategy is to go with 2-4 friends. This means you have enough people to entertain each other; yet, not enough to get left-out/ignored the whole trip.

Who should I go with then?

Outgoing socially active friends.

Life-long friends

Friends that share your same interests: Hiking, nature etc.

People that are not exhausting for you to be around

Choosing a Country to Vacation to?

I can’t choose a specific country you should go to. What I can do is telling you specific ideas.

Go to Countries That are From Different Cultures

Being in a foreign country makes it easier to interact with locals. This is because you’re not as worried about following the norms. Why? because you don’t even know they exist.

When I visited Ghana, Africa. Greeting people was easy as 1-2-3!

I did not mind just saying what’s up to different people or sounding weird. Why? Because I had no idea how normal people acted in their culture.

On top of that locals are more lenient and receptive to tourists. Firstly, because its always refreshing to meet new people. We always want to make a great first impression to visitors.

Secondly, the stereotypes of all tourists being loaded with cash might not hurt either

Countries Where People Don’t Speak Your Language

Many claims that being in a foreign country and not speaking the language is awesome. This is because the focus of your conversation is more on communicating your point.

Compared to being in a country where they speak the exact same language. Now your worried about how they think of what you said, and if they found your jokes funny etc.

Find Object/Event Focused Activity

Social anxiety gives people the “don’t know what to say syndrome“. Sometimes you feel like you know what to say, other times you don’t to learn more about speaking publicly with anxiety, check out my guide on public speaking with social anxiety.

Event Focused Activities

Museum
Opera
Napping on the beach
Take Pictures
Explore Nature: Hiking, scuba diving etc.

Pick a Tour Guide:
A tour guide makes travelling with social anxiety a breeze. Their job is to guide you through fun experiences and do the talking and schmoozing for you. You can learn more about choosing the perfect tour guide here.

What if I can’t find a professional tour guide?

No problem. You can always choose activities at a resort with instructors. Having an instructor is the simplest way to enjoy a new place without knowing the ins-n-outs. Plus, I’m sure they would not mind giving you some tips on local places to explore. Especially if you ask nicely (give a nice tip!).

What If I don’t want to give a tip?

Never enough for you huh? Alright then, why not catch up with an old friend? The best tour guides are people that have been living in that city for years, and that you know personally. Not only will they know the city well, they will know what you prefer!

Conclusion

Just take your travelling plans one wave at a time. Remember, your “job” as a tourist is to have fun. The standards are set low for you, to be honest. Being respectful and polite already puts you ahead of the pack. Safe travels, … and wait. Don’t forget to bring me a souvenir.

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