My Experience Of Being An Introvert

The terms introvert and extrovert haven’t been used in my life up until about two months ago. I stumbled across a couple of blogs talking about introversion and decided that I wanted to find a definition. All it says on Google is this
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and for an extrovert it says this
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I’m not shy, but I’m neither socially confident. This could mean that I am an ambivert (a mix of the two) but in the grand scale of things I’m closer to the introvert’s end of the scale and miles away from the extrovert’s.
Looking into unimportant definitions of peoples – from all of my overthinking – I found that I must be more of an introvert. To me, the definition is a broad term for someone who enjoys being around certain people but finds it awkward to build conversation or firmer relationships with people they have only just been introduced to. It takes a long time to a build a friendship, but when thrown into at a stage in life that you are comfortable at, it’s harder. At school you are told to grow and make friends. You may not be aware at your age about who you are going to be, and when you become an introvert it’s harder to make friends later in life (for me, but I’m not socially awkward. I’m a little bit shy and very unconfident but that’s not a definition of an introvert – that’s just me).
What I just described is a stereotype, and people will be different. If you are more confident to open up or to make conversations when thrown into a new situation, you are more of a extrovert. When I, an introvert, is thrown into these conversations I rely on someone else to start the conversation and I make little statements when I think I need to (or I just wont at all, and I’ll hide).
Introversion isn’t a fear to share your opinion. You may, but in a different medium (like written down words or images, rather than speaking loudly), and I try to use disclaimers so that I don’t try to hurt other people. The word is subtle.
An introvert isn’t perfect. Introverts aren’t good. We are not a different species, we are humans. It’s a way of describing yourself.
Introversion is the opposite of extroversion. Neither are wrong. One is not better than the other. You may not think of these adjectives often, or have identified yourself with either, but it’s something to consider and think about.
One of my greatest regrets is being outspoken, or not thinking before I blurt. It hasn’t hurt anyone but myself.
I want to embrace my introvert and not try to be someone I’m not, as an extrovert. This post is directed more at introversion because that is what I know of better. I know it’s late but Happy New Year! I hope you’ve embraced whatever ‘trovert’ you are.
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I have written this post in collaboration with Pooja! We have both written separate posts to put on each other’s blogs. If you wouldn’t mind checking out my blog to see Pooja’s post about How To Have The Best Experience In University as an Introvert!
Erin is such a great blogger and I had such a great experience working with her for this collaboration. I really hope you take some time to check out her amazing blog because I can assure you it’s going to be amazing.

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5000+ WordPress Followers

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So I recently just reached 5000 followers and I really wanted to thank everyone that has followed my blog!! You guys are amazing and it really makes such a big difference in my life to have all of you guys support my writing!

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There are so many of you who leave the most amazing comments who I’ve been lucky enough to get to know and I definitely consider you guys friends. And for everyone who I haven’t gotten to know yet don’t worry there’s a lot of time to do that because I am not going to stop blogging anytime soon!

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I know I’ve been taking a little longer to respond to comments but I’ve been crazy busy with university but I am definitely going to try and respond to them as soon as I can!

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I know a lot of you have been supporting this blog for quite a long time and I am so appreciative and I honestly can not even believe how many years it’s been since I first started I feel like it was just yesterday I was writing my first post.

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And for all the new followers I can’t wait to get to know you guys too.

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So I’m going to keep this short and sweet and just again say thank you to you guys. I can not emphasize how much the follows, likes, share, comments and views mean to me. You guys and this blog has become a vital part of my life and I really hope it remains that way! You guys are the absolute best and I really hope you keep supporting my blog.

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500th Post

So according to my stats this is officially my 500th post!

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I know I’m as surprised as you are! I honestly can’t believe I’ve posted so much and I can’t believe people have actually viewed them. I know I say this a lot but when I started this blog I honestly had no idea where it was going or if anyone would even read it. But apparently you guys did!

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I want to thank everyone who has followed me, liked or shared my posts, commented on my posts or even just viewed any of my posts!

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This blog wouldn’t be what it is today without you guys so thanks for all the support and I hope you continue supporting it!

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So I woke up this morning to find that I now have 4000 followers!!!

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I just want to take a minute to thank all my amazing followers out there! When I first started this blog I didn’t know what to expect or if it would even work out but I’m so glad I stuck with blogging. It has opened up a whole new world for me. I have made so many friends from around the world that I would otherwise have never known. I’ve learnt so much too and have got so much inspiration from you guys! Thank you for always supporting me and my writing. When I see the likes, follows, shares and comments it really lifts me up and makes a difference in my life. Thank you all for everything and I hope you guys continue to support the blog.

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I also want to say there are some changes coming to the blog! I am adding a few new categories which means I’ll be blogging more often now- everyday minus the weekends if possible! I’m really excited about that and don’t worry I’ll still be doing all the other stuff I did, these are just some additions to that!

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I just wanted to end this post by saying thank you again for making blogging so amazing for me and your continued support! All this is because of you guys!

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Lifesfinewhine Is Officially On Instagram!

So I finally decided to join Instagram! To check out my profile click here.

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I decided to join because firstly I wanted to share my blog posts on it and secondly I thought it would be fun to share a bit more of my life and what I’m doing because as much as I try to share on my blog I can’t really share everything I do every 20 seconds because that would be weird and slightly annoying but totally normal on Instagram! 😂

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I also wanted to sort of make more memories and I thought this would give me more incentive to go out more often and also try new things. It also help me kind of document my life and this way I have pictures/videos to look back at and remember stuff and smile!

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I am also planning on sharing vegan and vegetarian recipes as well as some posts about makeup (like tips and my favourite brands) because I feel like Instagram would be better for that then my blog.

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This is probably what my Insta is going to consist of… 😂

So if you want to get more of an insight into my life and just what it’s like for me day to day as well as vegan/vegetarian recipes or stuff about makeup make sure to follow me and feel free to DM me whenever!

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I had the privilege of doing a Q&A with K. K. Edin who’s book The Measurements Of Decay is both fascinating and thought provoking. He brings together Sci-Fi, Philosophy and History to give us an epic tale set in the far future.
Author Bio:
K. K. Edin was born in New York and grew up in the UK, France and parts of the Middle East. He holds a Bachelor of Arts degree in Philosophy and Political Science and a Masters in Philosophy from Boston University. He currently lives in Boston and The Measurements of Decay is his debut novel. Find K.K. Edin on Facebook, Twitter, Goodreads, and at
The Measurements of Decay [Metempsy Publications] is now available in hardback, paperback and e-book formats on Amazon.
Book Synopsis:
In the far future, Earth’s nearby star systems have been colonized. Outfitted with a device that allows them to escape into hallucinations at will, people spend most of their time withdrawn into their own minds. Tikan Solstafir, a renegade who refuses the illusory life enjoyed by others, lives in self-imposed exile on a starship. When a mysterious enemy attacks the ship, Tikan embarks on a mission to destroy the galactic tyranny and liberate humanity from its own dreams. Meanwhile, in the 21st Century, a disillusioned philosopher believes that humanity s collective misery originates in people s failure to communicate with others and make sense of the world. Growing increasingly misanthropic and monomaniacal, he proceeds on a hermetic quest to save humanity from itself, while also succumbing to his own moral decline. As these stories intertwine, a young girl reappears through various epochs, fleeting through Ancient Greece, Medieval Norway, Bolshevik Russia, among others. Unbound by time, Sielle has formed few attachments. Eventually thrust into Tikan’s world, she becomes unwillingly entangled in a political scheme spanning centuries. At once a tortured love letter to philosophy and a space opera spanning centuries, it is a novel of ideas wrapped in a cautionary tale.
1. What inspired you to write The Measurements of Decay?

The novel draws from many inspirations. Too many, perhaps. I began writing it when I was 20 years old and steeped in the classics of philosophy. I recall that the main themes arose out of a series of thoughts I had at the time in response to Descartes’ Meditations on First Philosophy. Part of Descartes’ work seemed to imply to me, at the time, that absolute certainty about something can only be achieved in virtue of being that thing. Obviously the only thing one can be is oneself. With this as the criteria for knowledge-at-its-best, the implication, therefore, is that anything other than oneself is subject to doubt. But what would it take for that certainty and those conditions to extend to other things and people, and even form the foundation of science? What political and moral implications would this have? The logical thread quickly ended up somewhere between absurdity and nightmare. In other words, perfectly suitable for the crucible of science
fiction. My study of philosophy continued to inform the novel, especially as many problems related to the tension between objectivity and subjectivity became apparent. It is one of the key conflicts of philosophy: How can the individual make sense of being in the world, which is shared by others? How does our limited and unique perspective impact our moral considerations, our ability to be scientific, or our understanding of
consciousness and being? Moreover, how can we make sense of duty, freedom and knowledge in the shadow of this subjective-objective tension?

These are the themes I wanted to address, but I wanted to address them in grand, Melvillian style. I wanted to combine the speculative power of science fiction, the psychological investigation that authors like Dostoevsky or Hamsun perform, and those problems of philosophy that occurred to me while I was a student. And I wanted to create a beautiful, if dark and risky, work of it.

2. What are some of the themes readers can expect to discover in The Measurements of Decay?

At the most general level, the core themes revolve around and arise from the abstract issues I described above. These ideas are very abstract sounding, but I think most people are familiar with them at some level. I have endeavored to test a lot of ideas, push them to their limit, and see what the result is. For me, that is the heart of science fiction, the power to speculate to extremity.

Here below are some of the philosophical themes in the novel, among many others:

Empathy and Understanding

There is an old saying in French, which can be translated as: “To understand all is to forgive all.” In great part, the novel is an analysis of that idea. What would it take for us to completely understand each other, and therefore forgive each other perfectly?

Wouldn’t that be an ideal scenario? To understand each other so well that we treat each other exactly the way we would treat ourselves? Ok. So what would it take? What would constitute perfect understanding? You would have to know the entire history of the person, objectively, the way a scientist might describe their whole life in a lab report. It would require knowing all of their inner thoughts, too––their subjective life. All the reasons they gave themselves for their actions. All of their ideas, emotions and experiences, the way they experience the world–––plus, you would also need their whole context, so you would need to know entire history of the world. So it’s impossible. Right.
But not in science fiction… or is it?


Piggybacking off of the theme of empathy and understanding, the theme of evil is core to the novel. Aside from classic moral questions such as: “Do the ends justify the means?” “Do consequences or principles dictate morality?” “What defines a Good Life?” and so on, I wanted to explore the theme of evil in relation to understanding and forgiveness. What are the limits of forgiveness? Let’s say you can understand everything about a person, but they have committed some truly reprehensible acts… can you forgive them? Can you forgive Hitler, after experiencing the whole of his life and understanding perfectly what led him to his decisions? You might say no, but consider that to understand his life the way he understood it, to be in the cockpit of Hitler’s life, so to speak, you might not have a choice but to commit the same acts he did. Although perhaps not, depending on what we build into the thought experiment. Many people loath themselves, of course, but maybe they don’t fully understand themselves. It can get quite tricky.

The novel takes that French proverb to its limit and tests it. We have a character who, by the same token that he recognizes all of the epistemological, metaphysical, ontological and moral issues at stake, is as vile, immoral, and contemptible as it gets precisely in virtue of his knowledge. That is the real question for the reader. How much can you stomach? How much are you willing to forgive, knowing a maximal amount about a person? And if you can’t, then is understanding the key after all? Can evil survive both total knowledge and forgiveness?

There is a nice discussion of the limits of forgiveness in Dostoevsky’s The Brothers
Karamazov, in Book V Chapter 4: Rebellion, for anyone interested.

Self and Identity

What do we know best? Most would probably say ourselves, since we are most familiar with ourselves. Ok. So should that be a model or standard for the extent to which we would like to understand others? That understanding others as well as we understand ourselves would be the highest achievement of understanding?

There are obviously problems with being able to understand things other than yourself. You are separated by time and space from literally everything exterior to you, and experience them by way of a limited perspective. You can’t have a God’s-eye- view of things. You cannot know the thoughts of others, etc., etc. But what about yourself? Your thoughts are subject to time. Your body is distinct from your mind. Insofar as you are divisible in any way, you are not a self-contained totality. You participate in the world. So that problem folds into the greater problem of knowledge.

There is a lot in the news these days about identity. I think that’s a candidate for the successor to the age of information––the age of identity. That, in a way, is part of what I wanted to bring to its logical conclusion by way of science fiction. In the novel, metempsies allow you forget your identity, and experience existence, virtually, as another person, another identity––but mediated through your own self. It’s a bit loopy,

It’s the dream of many people today, to be able to wholly construct your own identity to the point where its artifice (the creation of it) does not intrude upon its perceived authenticity. I think it may also be the logical conclusion to storytelling, the way we get invested in characters, sympathize with avatars. Video games and movies push that avatar-sympathizing further. What’s next? How can we become Iron Man, Captain Ahab, or Harry Potter, and thereby experience their story as they do, as opposed to mere observers? Would it still be a story?


There are many battles in philosophy around what is called epistemology––the study of knowledge. There are many opposing traditions, theories and systems out there, so while the novel doesn’t cover them all, it does cover what I consider to be two big, opposing categories. One view says negativity is a part of the truth, the other view says that the truth must exclude negativity. For instance, is a true view of a chair one that covers all of its angles? Or is it an inherent part of a true perception of a chair that we cannot view it from all angles at once? For those interested, this issue is related to the conflict between Hegelian and Aristotelian logic.


Dovetailing with the philosophical problems the Narrator is facing, the novel depicts a society that has tried ways put a band-aid on these issues. In many ways, the society of the future described in the novel is a logically extreme conclusion to the societies we live in today. That is, one structured around silent A.I. and smart phone-like technology, but motivated by the underlying philosophical problems we face. Our phones already feel like extensions of ourselves. It’s only a matter of time before they are permanently fused to our minds. What will that look like? How will that relate to the problems of consciousness, language, communication, thought, and human interaction? How about entertainment? Fantasy and dreams are core components of the human psyche. What will they look like, structured by such technology?


The principal means by which we communicate with others is language. We tend to see language as an invisible medium, a clear window to our thoughts, and to those of others. But language is a part of our thoughts. It is a part of that which it helps us to access. It thereby frequently obscures and complicates just as much as it clarifies, at every level, from philosophical theorizing to interpersonal conflicts. We misunderstand each other and talk past each other frequently as a result of language, and not simply in spite of it. The theme of language in the novel also comes out to a large extent in the question of whether or in what way our thoughts and sentiments are truly separate from language. Do I have thoughts first, which are subsequently expressed in language? Or are all my thoughts necessarily linguistic? If not, what does that look like? What is a non-linguistic thought?

Poetry versus Logic

The tension between poetry and logic as media for truth is another theme that is very inherent to the novel, precisely because of the style I have chosen. Plato suggests in the Republic that poets should be outcast from the ideal society. There’s a reason he, a philosopher, brings that issue to the table. If poetry is indeed the language of emotion, then does it obscure our rational understanding? How does poetry, if at all, deliver truth? The novel’s narrator is as much a poet as he is a philosopher. Why is that? What are the tensions that arise for him as a result?

3. What advice would you give readers interested in reading The Measurements of Decay? How should they approach the novel?

The reader should approach The Measurements of Decay with a degree of patience. I have written the novel in an ornate style that bucks the minimalist trend. That alone means paying more attention to the language and not racing through the plot, which is itself somewhat complicated and tangled in other aspects of the writing. The reason for this is that the language is itself a key part of the story, for philosophical, thematic and character reasons. The overarching plot, meanwhile, unravels quite slowly. Many readers have expressed that they found themselves having to accept a degree of ambiguity through the first half or so, but being enthralled by the plot thereafter and appreciating the upward climb retroactively. In addition, the philosophical content of the book can be quite intense, especially for someone without a background in the subject, though not, I think, impossible. Lastly, I would say that the reader should treat the Narrator as a
character with his own idiosyncratic worldview, use of language and will. Much of the novel is an exploration of his psyche, his evil, and his philosophical troubles. To understand the novel is to attempt to understand the Narrator.

4. Who are your favorite authors you like to read and/or follow?

Herman Melville, Fyodor Dostoevsky, Cormac McCarthy, Thomas de Quincy, Dan Simmons, Alfred Bester, Ursula K. LeGuin, Sylvia Plath, Emily Dickinson, Gene Wolfe, Edgar Allan Poe, H. P. Lovecraft, J. R. R. Tolkien (particularly The Silmarillion).

5. When do you find the time to write?

Usually late at night, but not necessarily. I tend to write whenever I have at least a solid hour in the day, and all other tasks have been completed.

6. Who and/or what has influenced your writing style?

I am attracted to beautiful and daring language, intellectual ideas and poignant characterization. The novels that I enjoy the most tend to be ornately written, poetic and philosophical in some degree.

In terms of fiction, I draw from the psychological investigations of Dostoevsky, Knut Hamsun and Thomas de Quincy, the immortal masterpiece that is Moby Dick, the speculative powers of science fiction from Alfred Bester and Ursula K. LeGuin, and the magnificent prose of Cormac McCarthy.

Most of the ideas I like to base my themes on are drawn from the history of philosophy, though not always.

7. What are you working on now?

I have ideas for three more novels, each very different from the other, and different to The Measurements of Decay. I am also focusing very much on my professional career and my personal life, with much less time for writing, at the moment.

8. Do you have any advice for aspiring writers?

Decide from the beginning if you want to write mainly for artistic or entertainment or commercial reasons. If you decide to write for mainly artistic reasons, your standard should be nothing short of an absolute masterpiece. You will in all likelihood fail, but it will probably force you to increase the quality of your work. Aim for the stars, as they say.

In terms of writing itself, I like to think of the first draft as a process of excavating marble from a quarry. After the marble is prepared, you can begin sculpting. I also do not believe in inspiration as a necessary requirement to writing. I have found that inspiration only makes starting easier, or helps in generating ideas. It provides no noticeable increase in quality.

If you are writing for purely artistic reasons I would also avoid any business related information about the world of publishing until you are finished with at least the second draft. The knowledge may poison your vision. On the other hand, if you are writing mainly to entertain or for commercial reasons, make sure to read up as much as possible about the publishing world, and, in particular, about the constrictions of your respective genre.

My New Obsession- Old English Company

If you know me well you probably know I have a pretty severe sometimes scary obsession with stationery! I love stationery- I love how it looks, I love the way it feels the first time you use it and most of all I love shopping for it! However, unfortunately I can’t buy all the stationery in the world (although I am trying slowly but surely) and I usually just end up staring at pretty pictures of it on Instagram or Pinterest which is how I found Old English Company!

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They’re a fun and super cute site with literally the most adorable stationery! They were established in London but are now located in Stamford. They have these amazing things with the best little messages and honestly I’m so obsessed with them right now!

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Plus, to celebrate the new additions to their enamel pin collection they’re having this amazing giveaway competition where literally all you have to do is email them your favorite enamel pin design from our entire range at I’ve already entered and this was my favorite:

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Just thought I would share this with you guys because if there’s one thing I love more than stationery it’s free stationery!

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My Favourite Quotes Of All Time (Collab!)

So this post is actually a collaboration post with the amazing David who runs one of my favourite blogs! He also writes a lot of posts with inspirational quotes and we thought it would be super fun to share our favourite quotes with you guys!! Also if you enjoy inspirational posts or are into fitness check out his blog here! It’s definitely worth following!! And don’t forget to check out his version of this post here!

Ever since I can remember I’ve been a huge fan of Mark Twain and even though I never learnt much about him in school I did my own research and the more I read about him the more I admired him not just as a writer but as a human being. He was one of the most intelligent people I have ever read about and I could really relate to what he talked about. So here are two quotes that I have always deeply agreed with and understood.

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I feel like a lot of what we learn in school is censored or has very little value in our lives in the future. If you’re really interested in something don’t rely on your school or teachers to teach you about it. Do your own research and learn about it yourself!

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I couldn’t agree more with this quote. Just because the majority supported something doesn’t mean it is the right thing. Do what YOU believe is right and live your life as you want to.

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