500th Post

So according to my stats this is officially my 500th post!

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I know I’m as surprised as you are! I honestly can’t believe I’ve posted so much and I can’t believe people have actually viewed them. I know I say this a lot but when I started this blog I honestly had no idea where it was going or if anyone would even read it. But apparently you guys did!

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I want to thank everyone who has followed me, liked or shared my posts, commented on my posts or even just viewed any of my posts!

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This blog wouldn’t be what it is today without you guys so thanks for all the support and I hope you continue supporting it!

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Let me know in the comments below what your favourite post has been so far!!

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Emotional Ups And Downs: 7 Tips On What To Do To Manage Them (Guest Post)

From Give it a Spin

“Knowing how to manage emotional ups and downs is one of the key skills we must work on, regardless of whether we regularly visit the psychologist’s office or not.”

On the other hand, to assume that we can not modulate our emotions is to limit ourselves in an unnecessary way, especially when these tend to change quickly and we become very sensitive to what happens to us.

In this article we will see a series of tips to know what to do in the face of emotional ups and downs, adopt strategies against instability of this type, and adapt ourselves in the best possible way to the environment and to life in general.

What are the emotional ups and downs?

The existence of emotions makes sense, among other things, because they do not arise through our conscious control. Thanks to them, we do not have to go through a long period of reflection to know how to position ourselves before an idea or event; simply, we adopt an attitude automatically, and sometimes in a matter of fractions of a second.

However, in some cases the dynamic nature of the emotions can become emotional ups and downs, which appear when minimal changes make the mood change completely.

This emotional instability cannot only generate discomfort in the person who experiences it first-hand; It can also negatively affect their way of socializing, since it facilitates the appearance of misunderstandings and communication failures. Therefore, it is normal to look for solutions, either by looking for a psychologist (for cases in which the quality of life is worn out) or by changing certain routines from day to day.

How to manage emotional instability

Below we will see several ideas to apply in case you are not attending psychological treatment, although reading them and trying to follow them by oneself can not replace the work of a mental health professional.

1. Look at what situations feed emotional ups and downs

Does this emotional instability appear in any situation, or does it remain linked to a specific context or scope? The answer to this question can give you clues about the extent to which ups and downs are facilitated by elements of your environment.

2. Learn about Bipolar Disorder

As with any type of psychological disorder, Bipolar Disorder can only be diagnosed by mental health professionals through personalized evaluations. However, the simple fact of reading about it can help us understand what happens to us, comparing its symptoms associated with what happens in that case.

Specifically, Bipolar Disorder is characterized by stages of mania, in which the euphoria and extreme optimism and motivation prevail, with another depressive type. These stages are usually long (several days in a row, or weeks), and the symptoms are very extreme and relatively independent of what happens to us.

So, if the emotional ups and downs are not extreme and do not last more than a day, there is no reason to think that this may be the phenomenon that affects us, while in the opposite case it is advisable to attend a psychological evaluation, even if note that it does not have to be Bipolar Disorder. Also, keep in mind that there is a tendency to identify with the symptoms of mental disorders, even though this relationship really does not exist or is exaggerated.

3. Sleep well and eat properly

In many cases, emotional instability is due to frustration fueled by poor physical condition. People who can not afford the energy cost their daily life demands tend to have higher levels of anxiety, which causes them to react in a more extreme way to negative stimuli.

For that reason, to sleep the necessary thing and to take care of the feeding will favor that it does not happen that deficit of energy, which is reflected in the emotional state.

4. Learn to surround yourself with the right people

There are times when emotional ups and downs arise from flawed relational dynamics, perhaps because of conflicts with another person, memories associated with someone and that we would prefer to forget or simply because the predominant attitudes in a group do us no good.

That is why it is important to be clear that if a relationship does not make us feel good, it is totally legitimate to cut it off, even temporarily until we recover.

5. Do not force the appearance of other emotions

If you try to “force yourself” to feel differently, that will only cause you frustration, since it will not work. Instead, it is much more useful to indirectly influence how you feel by exposing yourself to environments that convey the way you want to feel.

Anyway, in the case of emotional highs and lows this can not be the definitive solution either, since it can only be effective when the sudden change has already appeared that you want to avoid that is repeated constantly.

6. Take some time to disconnect

Entering a phase in which the ideas that obsess us and the environments that bombard us with reasons to worry are no longer important, is very positive, since it allows us to recover our strength and take up those daily challenges with renewed energy.
In order to be, change places, so that your physical environment does not remind you of what makes you experience stress.

7. Go to the psychologist

If you can not adequately manage emotional instability, do not blame yourself; The field of emotions works through processes that do not depend on our voluntary control, and we can only influence it indirectly, modifying our way of relating to the context. In the latter, psychological therapy works very well.

So, it is important to look for a psychologist or team of psychologists and let yourself be advised and helped. Working from the consultation sessions and through the routines indicated by the professional we will be doing what is necessary to improve significantly in a matter of weeks.

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Jack Kerouac Quote!

Love Jack Kerouac and this quote so much I had to share it with you guys!!

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“The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars.”

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The Guy From Another League by Kristina Gallo

GoodReads Blurb:

This is a book about a girl who made a wrong choice. It will bring her humiliation and disgrace. Her relationship will bring out the worse from her. She will gamble with her reputation, lose her friends and dignity. All for the guy who just wanted the one-night stand.

My Thoughts:

Before I start this I just want to appreciate the fact that Kristina’s first language is not English yet she has managed to publish a number of books in English which I think is really inspiring!

I am not a fan of books about love and relationships in general so I was slightly skeptical about this one. However, I knew that it would be interesting since I have read other works written by Kristina and I was impressed with them. As expected I was pleasantly surprised by this one too.

The book is about a girl, Renata, who falls in love with a man, Davon, who clearly doesn’t want the same things as her from the relationship. It’s eye opening and beautifully realistic. If you’re sick of reading about super feminine women who are portrayed unrealistically this is definitely the book for you. I would definitely recommend it and even if you usually don’t read these sort of books in general.

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10 Tumblr Posts Reminding Us That Humans Are Weird

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Book Review: Rainbow Trilogy by Alex Sanchez (Guest Post)

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Rainbow Boys (Rainbow Trilogy #1)

Here, we follow three gay boys in high school who are still closeted apart from one of the boys. Now that’s the hardest period in a person who is LGBTQIA+. Something that I notice straight out was that the language has changed from then to now. For example, the word “queer” is given a bad light. However, the word “queer” is now being widely used in the LGBTQIA+ community. I felt that the wording is a bit outdated, and I didn’t like the cover, but that’s just my opinion. My rating is 2/5 stars.

Goodreads Blurb

Jason Carrillo is a jock with a steady girlfriend, but he can’t stop dreaming about sex…with other guys. Kyle Meeks doesn’t look gay, but he is. And he hopes he never has to tell anyone- especially his parents.

Nelson Glassman is “out” to the entire world, but he can’t tell the boy he loves that he wants to be more than just friends.

Three teenage boys, coming of age and out of the closet. In a revealing debut novel that percolates with passion and wit, Alex Sanchez follows these very different high-school seniors as their struggles with sexuality and intolerance draw them into a triangle of love, betrayal, and ultimately, friendship.

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Rainbow High (Rainbow Trilogy #2)

In the second book, we see the boys growing up and trying to figure out who they are. In this book, the topics of HIV is dealt with and sexually transmitted diseases. One of the boys falls in love with a guy who was HIV positive, and that broke my heart. Sadly this is more common with same-sex relationship during unprotected sex. In my opinion, this book is better than the first. I gave this book three / five stars.

Goodreads Blurb

Jason Carrillo, the best-looking athlete in school, has had his eyes on the prize from day one: a scholarship for college. But then his eyes turn to love — and Kyle.

Kyle Meeks, swim team star and all- around good guy, is finally in the relationship he wanted. Being in love
feels so good, in fact, that he can’t imagine giving it up to go to Princeton.

Something he’s worked for his entire life.

Nelson Glassman, outgoing and defiant, might be HIV positive. Jeremy, the boy the loves, is HIV positive. Although Nelson fears testing positive, if he is infected Jeremy might stop protecting him and pushing him away.

They can be together.

High school’s almost over. Graduation is ahead. Life’s a bowl of cherries, right? Right…

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Rainbow Road (Rainbow Trilogy #3)

So this is the end of the trilogy, and the boys go on a road trip right before going to college. Since Kyle ( one of the three) was invited to do a talk about coming out in one of the more LGBTQIA+ friendly colleges. We see relationships being tested and that tells that the main characters are human after all. I gave this book a three out of five stars.

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Jason Carrillo came out to his basketball team senior year and lost his university scholarship. Now, with graduation behind him and summer ending, he’s asked to speak at the opening of a gay and lesbian high school across the country. But after spending years in the closet and losing his scholarship dream, what message can he offer?

Kyle Meeks is getting ready to go to Princeton in the fall and trying to see as much as possible of his boyfriend, Jason, before they have to separate. When Jason tells him about his speaking invitation, Kyle jumps at the chance to drive across country with him. Yet he can’t help worrying: Will their romance survive two weeks crammed together in a car?

Nelson Glassman is happy his best friend Kyle has found love with Jason. Now he’s looking for his own true love — and hopes he might find his soul mate during the road trip. But will being the “third wheel” in a trio ruin his friendships with Kyle and Jason?

During an eye-opening post-graduation summer road trip, each of the three very different
boys also embarks on a personal journey across a landscape of love, sexuality, homophobia,
and above all, friendship.

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4000 Followers!!

So I woke up this morning to find that I now have 4000 followers!!!

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I just want to take a minute to thank all my amazing followers out there! When I first started this blog I didn’t know what to expect or if it would even work out but I’m so glad I stuck with blogging. It has opened up a whole new world for me. I have made so many friends from around the world that I would otherwise have never known. I’ve learnt so much too and have got so much inspiration from you guys! Thank you for always supporting me and my writing. When I see the likes, follows, shares and comments it really lifts me up and makes a difference in my life. Thank you all for everything and I hope you guys continue to support the blog.

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I also want to say there are some changes coming to the blog! I am adding a few new categories which means I’ll be blogging more often now- everyday minus the weekends if possible! I’m really excited about that and don’t worry I’ll still be doing all the other stuff I did, these are just some additions to that!

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I just wanted to end this post by saying thank you again for making blogging so amazing for me and your continued support! All this is because of you guys!

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How To Ease Your Travel Anxiety

As an international student, travelling has become a part of my life and as much as I actually do love travelling my anxiety does tend to mess with me sometimes. However, over the last few months I have learnt a few things that help ease my anxiety before and during my travels. I really hope it helps you guys too because travelling should be a good experience not an anxiety ridden one.

  1. Be prepared in advance– I usually try to finish all of my packing at least one day in advance so on the actual day I’m travelling I know I’m done with everything and I can relax. This gives you a chance to kind of relax your brain because once it’s all anxious it’s hard to calm it back down. I just have to go through everything and make sure I’m not forgetting anything and I’m done!
  2. Lots of chamomile tea- studies have shown that drinking chamomile tea helps calm you down and reduces stress levels so if you’re packed in advance you have a few minutes to sit down and have a nice cup of chamomile tea to really calm you down. You can also take some along with you or buy them at the nearest coffee shop to help keep you calm during your journey  Chamomile tea doesn’t help everyone but it has helped me so give it a try and see if it works for you!
  3. Meditation and yoga- like I said before if you’re packed in advance you have more time to do relaxing things and it really helps to do some yoga and breathing exercises. There are a lot of special yoga positions and meditations that are specifically for relieving anxiety and stress and I wasn’t a huge believer in either but they really do wonders for you especially if you do them long term! You can also do the breathing exercises while travelling to help you stay calm in anxiety inducing situations.
  4. Your carryon is important– This is crucial to your travel. In my experience what you carry with you on the plane/bus/train is very important to how your journey will go. Firstly, make sure to double check that you have your passport and any other documents you may need during your journey. Secondly, make sure you have a book or headphones or something to distract you in case you do end up getting really anxious or having a panic attack. I also make sure to carry food and drinks with me because I tend to get more anxious when I’m hungry or dehydrated and you can do this too.
  5. Don’t forget to breathe– at the end of the day you have to remind yourself that it’s just travelling and it’s really no big deal. Most of the time when anxiety takes over it’s hard to think rationally but you need to train your mind and make sure it doesn’t control you with irrational thoughts. Keep thinking calming things and just try to relax and enjoy the moment!

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BEGREATGUYS #5 — My exam story (Try Again)

Never stop trying guys! Believe in yourselves!
“When you try something for the first time, you might find you aren’t the best at it, but doesn’t mean you can’t get better” – Shay-lon Moss

Staying healthy isnt a crime-Fitness is a lifestyle choice

I have learned many things, some of which made a difference in my life. One of which, is learning to “try again”, which for some is easy enough but for others like myself, “trying again” is scary and makes us overwhelmed, makes us anxious and gives us stress. Stress we don’t need nor want. I can tell you of many incidences where I wanted to try again but didn’t due to fear and not knowing, due to low self esteem and negative thinking and due to lack of courage. I grew up on “trying” and giving it my best; my mom always told me and my siblings this growing up — and even then it was easier said than done. Almost like now. Where trying something for a second or third time seems like a waste of time, especially when you don’t know how it will end. 

I learned REAL…

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10 Jokes You’ll Love If You’re An Introvert!

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