Dear parents!

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The Little Black Rose

Dear parents!

These words are for me (hopefully someday I will be a parent) and for all other parents. You may not agree with some things, but this is how I would/will raise my child. I see some things in my parents work and some things in friend’s families. But in the end, things never go in the way you planed.

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Tips On How To Deal With Anxiety

I usually have lots of anxiety about things most people tend to not even think about. Recently my anxiety had gotten worse but I have been trying to fight it. I know anxiety is one of the most common disorders in the world and I wanted to share some of the things that help me feel less anxious all the time and help me ignore the symptoms.

Stop overthinking it– sometimes distracting yourself can really help ignore your symptoms. The thing with anxiety is that it is always with you all the time and sometimes doing something calming like reading or listening to music can really help.

Exercise– exercising releases endorphins which make you feel better and feeling good removes the anxiety because two opposite emotions cannot coexist. Exercising can also really help give you time to think about situations more calmly and realistically.

Write/Talk about it– writing about things I am anxious about is for me the most helpful out of all of these. It just feels so good to vent and just be open about what’s bothering you. If you don’t particularly love writing you can always talk about it to someone you trust or to someone online.

Make a plan– if there’s a certain situation that’s making you overly anxious plan it out. Think about the worst possible outcomes and then try to think about what you could do to better the situation and think about how realistic those outcomes are. Sometimes we overthink things to the point where our thoughts aren’t even rational anymore. Plan everything so you have no reason to be anxious anymore.

Just live with it– sometimes you need to just ignore the anxiety and stop letting it control your life. I know it is easier said than done but for me one when I’m anxious I get lightheaded and it makes me really uncomfortable but I’ve learnt to just live with it and not pay too much attention to it.

Stop trying to please others– one thing that most anxious people have in common is that they are perfectionists and people pleasers. Something I’ve learnt though is that there are people who will never be pleased no matter how hard you try and sometimes giving up isn’t a bad idea. Instead of trying to be perfect and pleasing others you need to put yourself first. Being perfect is not possible and sometimes things don’t go as planned but that’s okay because you did your best and that’s all that matters.

Seek help– in the end if nothing seems to be working you should seek professional help because it can very difficult to live with anxiety. There are drugs you can take and people you can speak to and this can really be helpful. There is nothing to be ashamed of for seeking professional help because it doesn’t make you weaker than everyone else, it makes you stronger because you know your weakness and you’re ready to fight it. There are lots of therapists out there wanting to help and if you can’t for any reason talk to a therapist in person there are lots of online psychiatrists willing to help that could really help you change your life for the better.

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The Girl At The Counter

There was something

About this girl

The distant look on her face

Told me she didn’t want to be bothered

But the scars on her wrists

Told me to ask her

For her story

I couldn’t help but stare

As she packed my items

I tried staring at her

Hoping she would notice

And converse

I needed to know

The truth behind this girl

Her imperfections captured me

It was as though I knew

That she was different

She wasn’t like the rest

She was a misfit

Thanks

She handed me the bag

I wanted to yell out

I wanted to scream

But all I could do

Was nod and walk away

This poem is pretty self-explanatory. Whenever I meet people in general I try to figure out their story and once in a while I come across someone really fascinating like this girl.

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More Monday Inspiration

Since Monday’s can sometimes be the toughest day of the week here’s some inspiration to help you get through it:

            

              

                

   

     

P.S: I just wanted let everyone know that I started my exams this week and I am getting pretty stressed out and anxious. Because I have to revise for the next two weeks I may not be posting regularly and I’ll probably just try to post whenever I get time to and I’m really sorry about that and it sucks because I really have been trying to post regularly.

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Disappointment

It feels like

Someone is eating away

At your brain

And your heart

You can barely

Hold back the tears

You feel like you’re suffocating

Like there’s nothing left to live for

Why am I here?

Does it even matter anymore?

Maybe I should just give up

Or even worse

Maybe I should just give in

This poem is about disappointment, something we all have to deal with, sometimes on a daily basis. It feels horrible when you disappoint someone or even worse when you disappoint yourself. It feels even worse when someone you looked up to disappoints you because you will never be able to look at that person the same way ever again.

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Inspiration

Since yesterday was Women’s Day I thought I would share some of my favourite inspirational quotes by women.

        

            

    

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The Darkness

The darkness has descended upon us

The candle glows before us

No one speaks at first

But then a conversation begins

Soon we all speak loudly

With fierce passion

Arguing our own points

We laugh together

And smile together

After a long time

Sometimes it’s hard to remember

How to converse

With each other this way

Without staring into the screens

Of our technology

That we are so proud of

When I wrote this poem the electricity had gone and we were all just for once sitting down and not doing anything on our laptop or mobile which was really different and it kind of made me realize how technology has sort of taken over our lives and how we need to embrace the present more.

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A Rainy Day

Under the dark greying mass

I look out

As the rain unleashes its temper

Protected behind my window

As if looking past another world

 

The beats gradually increase

Performing a tribal dance as if memorized

Or perhaps like pots and pans

Falling with a clatter

 

Time stands still

Or maybe it’s the traffic

A pink finger appears

And draws a smile

On the fogged window

I draw back a ‘hello’

 

A curtain of rain between us

Protected behind our windows

This poem was written on a journey through the rain in a car but it is also symbolic of strangers who connect through nature but still are afraid to truly be themselves. We are so scared of revealing our true self that we often unconsciously build walls to protect ourselves and block others out.

This amazing poem was written by MistryLand and if you want to check out more from her visit her blog: https://mistry07.wordpress.com/

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My February

February was a pretty fun month and I thought I would share some of my favorite books and music from that month.

Books

bridget-jones-diary

“She smokes like a chimney, drinks like a fish and dresses like her mother”

Bridget Jones’s Diary by Helen Fielding- this book is eccentric, hilarious, crazy and fun. It may not be a literary classic but everyone needs to read this book at least once. It’s about a woman, Bridget, who is concerned about dying alone and being eaten by her dogs. In her desperation she ends up with a flirty, player and snubs a genuinely sweet man. The story consists of her figuring her life out and learning more about herself at the same time. If you want to read my full review for this book click here.

The Unknown Ego– this book is about the Freudian theory of the ego and how it effects behavior. It explains from a psychodynamic approach how human behavior is effected by the by our earlier experiences in life. I would not really encourage everyone to read it but I would encourage anyone who is interested in psychology, especially the psychodynamic approach, to check this book out. I’m still barely starting to learn psychology but since I want to become a therapist I thought I should read up on it and this book was so easy to follow and simple so I also really liked it for that reason.

“The quicker you let go of old cheese the sooner you find new cheese”

Who Moved My Cheese by Spencer Jones- as someone who finds change thoroughly uncomfortable this book was pretty helpful. I can sometimes be obsessive and I enjoy being habitual but this book was really helpful in pointing out the errors of my ways. To anyone who suffers from something similar I would strongly advise you to pick up a copy of this book.

Music

I don’t really have a particular song that I am obsessed with right now (except Work because it keeps getting stuck in my head) but I right now I am obsessed with The Ramones and everything by them.

Movies

Bridget Jones’s Diary– I really wanted to watch this movie after reading the book and I have to admit it was a great movie. The plot was very similar although not the same as some timings of events were changed. Something I didn’t particularly enjoy in the movie was how they had cut out most of the things Bridget’s mother and father did. Apart from a few annoying changes most of the changes were actually good and didn’t ruin the movie or plot at all. I also liked how the picked Colin Firth to play Mark Darcy!

The Man From U.N.C.L.E– this movie was both funny and entertaining. It had quite some action in it so it didn’t get boring at all. The witty humor, sarcasm and irony made the movie very enjoyable to watch. The plot pretty much revolves around two agents, one Russian and one American, who are forced to work together during the time of the Cold War.

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